Parties–Just Go


Do try to go when you are invited to a party.

When I was younger, we listened to Adventures In Odyssey (a radio drama for kids that Focus on the Family produces), and I can never forget this one episode where a somewhat obnoxious kid, Glenn, invites everyone in the school to his birthday party. 

And no one comes.

I also vividly remember an episode of Smallville (I didn’t even really watch the show, but I remember this), where it shows the villain as a boy. There were presents and cakes and treats everywhere, balloons and streamers and party hats. Then it showed this adolescent boy, sitting alone and looking at all the untouched party paraphernalia. And he was crying. Because no one came. His dad came and talked with him about it, but you could see the hurt had cut deep.

Both of those stories make me want to cry to this day. Obviously these stories weren’t real occurrences, but every story has a hint of truth to it, and I know this kind of thing has probably happened to others.  My heart is so sensitive to the thought of someone being hurt like that; I hate the thought of someone enduring that kind of rejection. 

Maybe it’s because there were a few times when I had a party and not many people came. Maybe it’s because ever since I saw that show, and that boy with tears in his eyes (even if it was just an actor), I can’t bear the thought of that ever being my son going through  something like that.

When I think about these stories, I can’t help but think that if just one person would come, it would make all the difference in the world. 

And I hate the thought of anyone possibly going through such pain when I could prevent it by simply showing up.

If you are invited to a party, go. Unless there is some other event that makes it impossible for you to make it, go. Even if you don’t know the person that well. They invited you because they liked you enough to want you to be there.

Just go. Because what if you are the only person that will? You could be that person who makes a world of difference for someone. 

And that’s pretty special.




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Other posts (of mine) in this series:

On Friendships That End

Starting A Friendship

Making Conversation

Maintenance Of Friendship

Life Changes And Friends

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Bech and Marley Evans said...

Yes! My mom has always impressed this upon me, especially with weddings and engagement parties (or maybe I just feel that especially because that's what I'm invited to these days!). Every invitation you get is special--they didn't have to invite you and they could have invited someone else. I realized after getting married how much each invitation I sent out meant and how much it meant when people came. So now I try to do the same for all invitations!

Amie said...

When my mom was growing up, I don't know exactly why but she only ever had one or two close friends. I didn't learn that until I was basically out of school, but she was talking about how happy and proud she was that I made friends so easily. It really broke my heart though, to think to my sweet momma grew up feeling lonely and unliked. At the time it made me feel more appreciative of my social skills, but now I know a lot of the people I used to be quite close with, unfortunately, didn't seem to want to put in the effort to be my friend. And as someone who really commits themselves whole-heartedly to every relationship in my life, I think it has to be a two way street.

Kara @ Just1Step said...

Those types of situations break my heart, as well. Even if the person is mean to everyone or the "villain" in a show. I think it's also related to remembering that you never know what's going on in someone's life to cause them to act the way they do. When someone is really grumpy with me or rude or mean, I try to remember that they may have had a past experience or may be currently experiencing something that is leading them to act a certain way (such as Luther with the empty birthday party).

Katie said...

You have such a sweet and big heart Callie and I love that about you! :)

Nícia Cruz said...

I never did (or went to) many parties because I was always grounded (I wasn't a bad girl, I just didn't study as much my parents wanted). So I never had as many friends as my sisters.

When I had the luck to throw parties only a few people came and there was this time when only one of my friends showed up. I felt so ashamed! But, at the same time, I was so happy to have that friend there. I don't see her very much now, as we live in different cities. However, every time I can (when I come visit my family) I invite her to a cup of coffee. We're still great friends and the only one I kept from high school.

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