Does anyone else have a hard time getting back to the rhythm of life after New Year's? This week feels like the first "normal" week since before Christmas - and it's not even actually normal since we had a long weekend for Martin Luther King Jr. Day. I'm declaring today an honorary Tuesday, so this old-fashioned post is a day late (but not really, because it's an honorary Tuesday).
A Winter Walk
Today I sat down to type this with my bowl of mini wheats, Gwen sitting in the chair next to me. Then I heard "Bobby* doesn't talk to me anymore." I looked up, and she was looking at me with big, sad brown eyes. She just looked at me, because I'm the mom and it's my job now to explain these things and make them better. And my heart broke a little, and I didn't know what to say to my sweet little four-year-old with her first friendship hurt.
I remember the first time it occurred to me that my children were going to be hurt by their friends. When Wyatt was about two years old, he made a little friend in his nursery class at church. Every time I sent him in, his friend would grab his arm and include him in whatever the kids were playing. I stood outside the nursery window and watched this once, and I just remember feeling that squeeze in my heart. I was so happy he had a little friend, but I was also strangely scared. What if his friend dumped him eventually? What if the friend decided he liked playing with someone else more and Wyatt felt left out?
I've had my share of friendship hurts, but it's even harder for me to think about my kids being hurt. I know it's the nature of the beast, so to speak. You can't really venture out and make the good friends without also taking the potential for hurt that comes with it, but knowing that doesn't make it easier to watch your children as they take steps into the friendship minefield. It's only a matter of time. I just pray that they'll find friends who are good enough to make the risks worth it.
I looked at Gwen, grasping for words. I mumbled something about little boys going through a stage where they only want to play with the other boys, and said "I'm sorry, honey." It seemed to be good enough. Now she's bouncing around Clarice's high chair and laughing, friendship woes forgotten.
I'm the one still sitting here thinking about it.
Hair Color and Cut
Moving on to something more superficial, this week is not only inauguration week (for which I've planned a whole little President unit study for our homeschool), but it's also haircut week! For me, and for the boys (because I need to break out the razor and give them a haircut this week). I still can't bear to cut Gwen's hair.
On Saturday I'm getting my hair cut and colored. This is what it looks like now:
I think it looks fine now, but I'm overdue for a trim. The shape is getting a little wonky, and I wouldn't mind an inch or so taken off (not too much because I want to grow it out a little for the summer, but we'll see). The part I'm having a hard time with is the color. I'll probably just get my usual blonde and red highlights, but part of me wonders if I should try something new.
What is "in" these days? I rarely color or highlight my hair, and I am definitely not up to date on current hair trends. I kind of do my own thing, at least thus far, but I am going to ask my hairstylist/friend if she has any ideas. I kind of like these (ignore the purple and blue ideas, those are for if/when I get up the nerve someday - which is not today).
Brunette Friends, do you color or highlight your hair? What's your favorite look? Should I try something new or stick with the old stand-by?
I'll post an updated picture next week!
What I'm Drinking: Celestial Seasonings Coconut Thai Chai. Think of a more summery spin on chai tea. It's good!
Old School Blogger Shoutout:
Felicia at Behind The Yellow Door - My dear friend Felicia has jumped on the old-fashioned blogging bandwagon! She wrote a post about her New Year's Goals, and I think I need to steal her book goal for myself (too many books, you know).
Bekah at Shafferland - Bekah is a newer blog friend, and I have really been enjoying getting to know her better through her blog!
*Bobby is not the real name. But it seems like a great fake little boy name, right?