On The New Year And Pajamas. Yes, Pajamas.



Let's start out this week's old fashioned blogging with a confession, shall we?



Here's My New Year's Confession

I'm kind of over the whole pick-a-word-for-the-year thing.  

For the last few years I've jumped on the bandwagon and picked a word that I want to focus on for the year, and I really enjoyed it.  I latched onto the idea originally because I love the idea of picking one thing to focus on during the year instead of making resolutions.  I've never been a resolution-making type person, and the few times I tried it didn't go so well.  Picking one over-arching goal for the year is much easier to maintain than making a list of ten goals that I've already failed at by February.  

For the monthly goals that I shared on the blog for this last year, I picked only one area to focus on instead of regaling you with a list of goals that I can cross off.  It was so much more manageable and less stressful that way.  I put a lot of internal pressure on myself to meet "goals".  I am more likely to succeed without crying when I focus on one thing. 

So it's not the whole concept that I'm rejecting this year - the part I'm over is the "one word" part.  And really for no deeper reason than sometimes I feel the inexplicable need to fight back against whatever is trendy. (In ideas, not in clothes.  Obviously.  I participate far too often in clothing trends.)

This year, I'm not picking a "word", but I am making one goal.  Or rather "focus".  I like that word better because New Year's goals and resolutions are so often made and broken, but it's easier to keep a focus.  If you lose it, you can shift right back.  When you fail at a goal that has a timeline or specific perimeters, you fail for good.

You'll have to read to the end if you want to know what my goal is! *winky face* (I feel weird typing that out because I like to express myself in words, but sometimes you just need an emoji.)



More New Year's Thoughts

(My #bestsixteen from 2016.  I'm making #bestsixteen a thing, because it just seems appropriate, and also I couldn't pick just nine.)

Okay, I can't help myself, let's just talk a little bit more about resolutions.  I want to know, have any of you ever made a lasting change in your life that started as a New Year's resolution?  I'm not trying to make a point, I just really want to know.

I actually haven't, but I also don't make resolutions often.

Whenever I look back and think of ways that I or my habits have changed, it usually happens in one of two ways.  The first type is change that comes gradually and unintentionally, because in some ways our experiences shape who we become.  I don't think they have to or should define who you become, but at the same, they do make a difference for good or for ill.  

And I know all your minds are going to tragic or bad experiences, but I'm not just talking about bad experiences.  I was pretty insecure in high school and in some ways even in college, but I grew up and found better friends and gained life experience, and I feel comfortable in most social situations now.  I used to think I knew everything (without even realizing I thought that), but motherhood has cured a large portion of that ailment.  Just regular life and the passage of time has a way of changing and growing you, and fairly often for the better (though sometimes for the worse too, let's be honest).

The second type of situation that has led to change in my life is when a bad habit got to the point that I was truly grieved by it.  I can think of three specific times (one even fairly recently), when the veil dropped and I could see that if I didn't redirect, I wasn't going to like where this path took me.  And I actually credit that to the Holy Spirit opening my eyes and convicting my heart of the sinful attitude behind those bad habits.  When He made it so clear, I didn't really have a choice but to turn around unless I wanted to be rebelling against God (and that is not a place you want to be), so I asked for help and God is the One who helped me to change direction.  

Those moments have never actually happened around New Year's for me.  Not saying they couldn't, though!



On To New Pajamas

Well, that got a little heavy, didn't it?  Here this is supposed to be the fun post of the week and I get all serious on you.  I always get a little reflective this time of year, but let's shift gears and reflect now on pajamas.

When I was pregnant with Clarice I made a commitment not to wear gross pajamas anymore.

I was in a nesting phase, and I was cleaning out my pajama drawer, and I realized how many sub-par pajamas I owned.  Why?  Why did I still have these?  I put them on to test them out.  I didn't feel attractive.  It was like instant frump.  Because I don't know if you've noticed, but after about six months, pajamas start to get those little fuzzy pills on them.  Or toothpaste stains.  Or the material starts to thin.  Why was I doing this to myself?  Why was I doing this to my husband?

So I cleaned out 95% of my pajama drawer (keeping a few staples that weren't in bad shape), and I went straight out and bought cute pajamas.  I determined right then that every six months or so, I would ditch the pilled pajamas and buy another set.  Out with the old and in with the new.

I've kept on pretty well.  Over time, when I realize that the old t-shirts and sweatpants have made it back into the rotation, I make a trip to the store (though I have to admit, I still need to purge a few of the old-new pairs again).  This month was pajama switch-up month for me, and right after Christmas I went on a hunt for new pajamas.

I really wanted this sleep romper in buffalo plaid, because oh my goodness, so cute.  They don't even look like pajamas!  I checked all over though and couldn't find them, so I ended up with these two instead:




Black sleep romper - I have never slept in a romper before, so I'll let you know how it is.  I don't do nightgowns because I hate how they get all tangled up around my waist, so I hope that it isn't a problem with this.


Pretty night shirt - I got this in a black and grey color.  This may look like a nightgown, but it's short enough (on me anyway) to qualify as a tunic, which wears like a long shirt.  No tangling problems, and I love how this one has a dip back and support built in.  It's really comfy.  I wear it with leggings.

Cute, right?  No frumpy pajamas, there is a resolution for you right there.



My Real Hope For The Year


I read a New Year's post recently that focused on "hopes" for the New Year, and I really liked that.  I like thinking about what I hope for the New Year instead of what I'm going to muscle my way into happening, because what do we really know about what will happen this year?  

In my latest post on Tommy Nelson (which if you have a minute you could share from their page, because that makes me look good - where is my winky face emoji?), I talked a little more about how to not be so stringent in picking goals for the year.  This verse came to mind.  God knows what will happen this year, and we...we really don't.  We can make our plans, but I like hoping better, because even that word feels like an expectation, a looking ahead to see not what I want to make happen, but what God will do.

So my hope for the New Year is that I can be a person who makes those around me feel seen - and maybe even known.

I read a book last January that I have been recommending like crazy, I'm Happy For You by Kay Wills Wyma, and in it she tells a short story of a fast food person who always remembers her kids' orders.  Her kids couldn't stop talking about how nice that fast food guy was, and how amazing it was that he remembered their order.  And it's true, isn't it, how much something small, like remembering to put extra rice in a burrito, can give that feeling that we are known, that we belong somewhere. 

"Is community with humans, as in interpersonal relationship and communication, the key to genuinely meeting our need to belong?...Practically speaking, yes.  Even small, seemingly insignificant but deeply meaningful interaction fills voids."

Isn't that good?  That story from the book stuck with me, because I want to be that person.  I want to be the kind of person that really sees those around me.  Who remembers them when they feel like no one knows their name.  Who sees that they are struggling, and doesn't just click the sad face on their Facebook status but reaches out to help.  Who remembers the little details about someone's life or preferences, so they don't have to tell me twice.  The type of person who makes other people feel like they are someone worth knowing.

That starts at home with Derek and the kids first, and then I hope I can stretch that out to those in my immediate circle. Because this Sunday, and on so many other days, other people did that for me.  

My mom and sister made sure I sat with them at church since Derek was home sick.  A girl from MOPS who I don't know that well, but would like to know better, looked me in the face and greeted me by name.  A sweet lady at church stretched over the coffee bar counter and gave me a hug.

It feels good to feel like you belong.  And in 2017, I want to do that for someone too.



Old-School Blogger Shoutout



Speaking of making other people feel like they belong - this week I wanted to share two bloggers that have done the blogging equivalent of that for me.  I've read both of these blogs for a while (when I've made the time), and not only do they share great real-life posts, but they never fail to return the comment and make me feel like we are friends - even when I haven't commented on their blog in six months.  And I'm clearly not the only one who is made to feel like I belong by these ladies, because check out their comment sections. They get more comments than most, and their comments sections would be a great place to start if you are looking to find active old-school bloggers!

So without further ado,

Michelle from Mich Mash - Michelle is pretty much hilarious to me.  One of my favorite blogs to read.

Erin from Love, Fun, And Football - Another favorite to read because she seems to keep the personal touch in every post!

(Also check out my shoutouts from last week, because I feel like not a lot of blog reading was going on two days after Christmas.)

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That's what I have.  So do you make resolutions, or "hopes", or pick a word?  This is the week for talking about it, is it not?  What are your thoughts?

What I'm Drinking: Coffee.  Black.  I haven't caught up from our Rogue One date night and New Year's Eve yet. (Okay, if I'm being honest, I might put in a pump of white mocha too if Derek lets me steal some of his syrup!)








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13 comments

  1. I feel ya on the resolution thing. Nothing has ever seemed to really stick. I'm setting monthly goals for myself and hoping that will be more manageable. I'm achieving financial goals right now and that feels good.

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    1. Definitely! I do have some financial goals for the New Year I guess, but I'm taking those more month by month, so they don't seem the same as resolutions to me. ;-)

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  2. I've never done a word until this year, and I didn't actually set out to "do a word" this year. But my verses for the year start out with the way the early church devoted themselves to the Lord and each other, and I realized that at the core, I wanted to be devoted. So that's my word, and I'm applying it across the board. I love making goals for each year, and last year, my first full year of freelancing and working as a stay at home wife, was very productive because I had goals and stuck to them! This year, God's teaching me to hold them a bit more loosely {spent New Year's Day in the ER with my husband and his yet-to-be-birthed kidney stone, so we got off to an "off" start!} and trust Him with timing. EEK!

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    1. What a great word/focus for the year! I did have such a good experience with choosing a word for the year, but it just feels like I should do something different this year!

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  3. Okay, I have a huge drawer filled with old t-shirts, frumpy pants, and just bad pajamas in general. The biggest point I agree with is how those clothes make us feel. I am in pajamas or workout gear (aka mom clothes) over 60% of the time. That is a huge portion of my day so why not feel good and even look presentable during those times. My mom always gets us pajamas for Christmas and I always thought it was pointless but now I am slowly seeing how those pajamas she would get us would be the ones I gravitated towards first because they didn't make me feel like a slob. Anyways, I love your new focus for 2017, very convicting. I sometimes feel like I don't put enough effort fourth in speaking with people or making meaningful moments because I use the excuse that I am busy with my own kids. Truth is I do have moments to spare and what beautiful opportunities for my kids too. Thanks for another insightful and encouraging post.

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    1. I so wanted to start investing my energy into making sure others around me belong after I first read that book, but last year I was struggling and kind of in a dark place, so I had to wait and get back on track myself first. Some seasons are definitely easier than others! I am looking forward to doing all the things that I wanted to do initially over the next year. And yes, pajamas! It's fun to feel cute in pajamas! ;-)

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  4. Ok, I remember you blogging about pajamas before, several years ago! Maybe even pre-kids? Not quite sure when it was! But it totally stuck with me about not having frumpy old pajamas! I do still really like an oversized T and pajama pants, but I have tried to put more effort into getting matching sets and getting rid of old ones over the last few years, since that post!

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    1. YES! It makes me feel really good that you remembered that, haha! Clearly the pajama thing is an ongoing struggle for me. ;-)

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  5. I like goals! Failure (or not meeting a goal,) doesn't bother me as much as it used to because of all that I learn and accomplish while trying to reach a goal. Definitely setting goals that are attainable and measurable is important to healthy goal setting!

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    1. That's a really good way to look at it! I still let failure get to me too much, and I weirdly feel like I do better with vague goals. If it's too specific I tend to make it into too big of a deal and put it off. I probably just need to get over that. ;-)

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  6. Thank you for the shout out!! :)

    I love every single thing you said. I completely agree about the word of the year. Also, I just don't understand how people pick those, because we have NO idea what God is going to throw our way. A word we pick could be completely irrelevant.

    With that said--pajamas! I am so with you. My pajama situation was getting dire, and I even talked to my husband about how I could probably wear something a little better, so I just invested a chunk of my Christmas money in new pajamas and lounge clothes, since that's what I wear more than I would care to admit. I feel like a brand new woman. I'm super intrigued by the sleep romper! Report back...I might want to try that :)

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  7. What a lovely blog and such wonderful posts! I've never read nor participated in this type of thing...... I'm a 'MeeMaw'and a social media 'dinosaur'. I have no clue re twittering and tweeting (don't birds do these things?) I just stumbled onto your blog (Holy Spirit?) So here goes.....

    I love both New Year'so ideas, selecting a word and choosing a focus. Not sure which way I will 'go'....will let you know when I get there.

    Now on to PJS.... I'm retired now and don'the always want to get or remain dressed. And this morning my husband said "is this the new you?" Guess I will take a look at getting rid of some PJS and invest in some pretty lounge wear.

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  8. So funny because my word is focus. I have noticed how quickly I get distracted when instead I want to focus on the present, focus my eyes on Jesus not everything else. On to pajamas- I have had the exact same realization recently! I got rid of most of them and am on a hunt for new ones so I will check those out! Random question but do you use a robe at all? I had one before because wanted to feel cozy but in reality it was hideous haha!

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