Don't Be Like Bob

(Four of my blessings.)


"Ah, you're Callie.  I've heard of you.  The one thing I know about you is that you have a lot of kids...so I guess I also know that you're insane."

Hardy, har, har.

Believe it or not, someone who was also a fellow Christian, by the way - we'll call him, Bob - actually said this to me once.  I gave out an incredulous "ha!" and then sat there in silence.  This is where I wish sometimes that I was a little quicker on my feet.  What I wanted to say was, "Oh, nice to meet you, Bob.  I guess the one thing I know about you is that you haven't read Psalm 139, where it says children are a reward from the Lord, and a blessing.  Buh-less-ing!"

But of course, I didn't say that, because that would be rude (hint, hint, Bob).

The reason I bring this up is because I saw a sketch on Facebook yesterday that made me laugh (you can see it here).  A stick figure family with six children and one on the way have their mouths hanging open, while another stick figure man says "You know what causes that, right?" Underneath it says "This is Bob.  Bob does not recognize blessings.  Don't be like Bob."

Apparently there are a lot of Bobs out there.  

Of course I thought it was funny because of my own experiences, so I shared it.  And then I sat there and remembered the story I shared above.  And then I had a startling realization.

Sometimes, I am also a Bob.  Because sometimes, I don't recognize blessings.  

Isn't that what discontentment is, after all?  We forget to recognize and thank God for the blessings we have.  We think what we have isn't good enough, or isn't enough, period.  We want more...more excitement, more recognition, more experiences, more things (even good things) - and when we focus so much on what we're missing, we forget about the things that we have.  The things God has so graciously given us.  

Maybe we don't actively ridicule those blessings like my Bob did, we're just overlooking them or minimizing them.  Those are two different things of course, but in practice, isn't it the same thing?  We're an ungrateful people, and whether with derision, or indifference and greediness, we snub God's good gifts as spoiled children would.  And when I say "we", I mean me.  So when I say this next part, it's a challenge to me more than it's a challenge to you.

Don't be like Bob.


You may also like:

11 comments

  1. Loved this, Callie! Thanks for sharing.

    ReplyDelete
  2. I totally agree that we too often take for granted the blessings God has given us or don't recognize them for what they are. Specifically with regard to large families, though, I admit that I do wonder how you and others are able to have kid after kid so close together. We are in a really hard stage with R right now, and we are struggling with just two kids, and I'm like, am I doing something wrong? Do people who have large families not have difficult children? It's not in a mean way that I think it's kind of insane. Children are a huge, huge blessing! But thinking about having another baby right now sounds extremely overwhelming and yet people pop them out year after year like it's no big deal! That sounds crazy to me, said in love :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Honestly, I think when God gives you a large family, especially close together, He also gives you the strength and grace to handle challenges that come with it. My kids are great, but we go through hard stages and tantrums like anyone else...but you grow with each new kid that you add. So you might not think you’d be able to handle it, but if you were living my life, you would be able to figure it out with God’s help. I understand where you are coming from, because I was there once, but I still push back against the words “crazy” and “insane” - those words only seem to fit because the people saying them haven’t grown into it yet, as you do when you have a large family. Even though I know 5 kids isn’t usual, I don’t like when people imply that my large family is some sort of side show. And you can totally tell when the comments are more admiring, as opposed to gawking. 😉 Also, I think when you’re in that 1-3 stage it is almost harder than in the 4+ stage. I thought the transition from 2-3 kids was hardest, then after 3 it really WASN’T a big deal anymore. Everyone may not have that same experience, but for us, adding a new baby has almost gotten easier as we go!

      Delete
    2. The transition from 0 kids to 1 kid was the hardest for me. Phew...that was a wake up call! Hahaha!

      Delete
    3. Amen! 0-1 is certainly the biggest adjustment!

      Delete
    4. I can totally relate with having a hard time with 1 or 2 kids! But I also liked Callie's response. We all deal with things that might be someone else's worst nightmare, and we just do what we can, and maybe aren't as challenged by it as someone else might be. When you're in the moment, you just deal with it. And I also think that a lot of times we don't choose to do something risky or adventurous on purpose, we just think that's the best option and will get through the tough parts somehow. There has never been a day of my life yet that God hasn't seen me through!

      Delete
  3. Thanks for this Callie. I'm currently umemployed. I should be more thankful for the time at home with my daughter but I'm worried about the bills adding up and me not working. This could be God's plan for me right now to enjoy being home with her. Thanks for the remimder.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Oh, for sure, I’m so glad it was an encouragement to you! And I’ll say a prayer for your job situation!

      Delete
  4. Well written, Callie. It's so easy to forget to be grateful and really, no one wants to be like Bob, when they really think about it...

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thanks Lisa! I agree, for me, I definitely just need to stop and think about it more - I don’t want to miss blessings by not recognizing them as such!

      Delete

© Through Clouded Glass. Design by MangoBlogs.