I had thought I was done with being a counselor for the summer, since I had to prepare for starting hygiene college in a few weeks, but I had this feeling that I should go back just one more week. I ended up being a co-counselor with a girl named Lindsey - and it was a good thing I went back that week, because Lindsey came down with an awful sickness and spent most of the week in bed, so I was able to take over counselor duties for our girls. On the last night of the week, Lindsey was feeling better. As the girls slept in our teepee (we all slept in teepees - it is a really cool camp), Lindsey and I stayed up late talking. In the darkness, Lindsey asked me "If you could do one thing before you die, what would it be?"
And without really thinking about it or knowing what I would say, the words just came out. I whispered back, "I would like to adopt a child." Through those weeks of spending so much time with these girls, I realized I could indeed love a child who was not biologically mine.
Ever since then I have had an internal passion for adoption - but it is hard to put it into words most times, because it is clear that our family is not being called to adopt a child. At least not right now.
However, over the years I have realized that even though we are not in a place where we can adopt a child ourselves, that doesn't mean that I can't still support adoption. The truth is that if you believe in Jesus, you are called to care for orphans. That may look differently for different families, but we are all supposed to do it.
There are a few ways to support adoption even when you don't adopt a child yourself, and I listed a few ideas below.
1. Be excited for those who are adopting. You have to realize that this is a big deal for families that choose to follow God's call by adopting a child. This is a brand-new member of their family that is being added! It's just as big a deal as if they announced they were pregnant. People often spend more time wondering why they are adopting, or thinking "I could never do that", than being excited about their friend's new child. That is a pity. I think a little excitement can go a long way in encouraging the hearts of those who are adopting. If you want to go all out, consider throwing them a baby/new child shower!
2. Donate money or hold a fundraiser for a friend who is adopting. Obviously donating directly is a huge blessing to friends who might be adopting! Adoption is extremely expensive, and helping financially is a really practical way to get involved. If you are comfortable, ask your friend if you can contribute to their adoption fund. There are also many ways to hold a fundraiser if you are organized enough to do it. I have had friends who did some "spring cleaning" and held a garage sale, then donated all the money they earned to their friend's adoption. Online auctions for donated items, or giveaways where donations earn entries are also good options.
3. Pray for those you know who are adopting. Pray that the process would go smoothly, for financial provision, that their wait would be short, and that the Lord would prepare them and their child for the moment they are matched. Then pray for final legal details to go through without a hitch!
4. Find an organization to support. If you don't know anyone personally who is adopting, you can still support adoption by finding an organization that supports adoption and supporting them. I am a Focus On The Family fan, so I would point you there first. I know you can call 1-800-A-FAMILY and ask to specifically donate to help children in foster care find a permanent family - you can even become a regular donor for that specific cause if you would like! Or find an adoption agency near you and see if there is a way you can donate or help.
As Christians, adoption should be important to us, because God adopted us as His sons and daughters! Jesus died on the cross to pay for our sins, and as a result we are called His children. He is a Father to the fatherless - adoption is the heart of our Heavenly Father, and it should be in our hearts too. I so admire those who follow God's example and adopt those children who are in desperate need of a family - what a beautiful picture of what God has done for us.
I hope you find a way to support adoption, and that these ideas help! If any of you have any more ideas or resources, I'd love it if you would share below!
Note: If you would like to help a wonderful family with their adoption, please check out this amazing giveaway on Natalie's blog, She Builds Her Home! Some of you may remember Natalie from her last blog, Extraordinary Love. I started reading Natalie's blog several years ago, and I am so excited and proud of her and her family for answering the Lord's call to "care for orphans . . . in their distress" (James 1:27). So for a chance to donate to place a child with this wonderful family, and for a chance to win some great prizes, check out her giveaway here!
It was just any other day - browsing my Facebook page, saw an interesting link that one of my friends shared, and I clicked.
I read an article about adoption, and the writer then started talking about some of the children that were left behind in the orphanage where her two children came from.
I scrolled down, looking at sweet faces of special needs kids that still needed adopting, and then I saw it. The story of a boy named Harvey.
I almost skipped over it, because the pictures were so disturbing, but something made me stop. Something made me scroll up and read a little further.
The boy in the pictures was curled up on his side in a crib, wearing a t-shirt and pajama pants. Skeletal-looking arms, bent and covered with hair, little hands balled into fists. A head full of thick dark hair, neck stretched back at an unnatural angle. Brown eyes, staring at something. Oxygen tube covering part of his face.
I read the story. He has a lot of medical needs that aren't being met. The hair covering his arms is from severe malnutrition and because of the fact that no one ever touches him or holds him. He must be fed through a feeding tube. He is three years old.
My son started to get fussy, and I could tell he was tired. I minimized the page, and with Harvey still in my mind I picked up my healthy, growing toddler and took him to his room, laid him down for a nap.
I came back up and worked on some things around the house, pulled out my computer to finish some projects. Then I opened the window up again. And I stared at those pictures. I looked at the way he was curled up on his side, and it reminded me of the way my son looks when he sleeps. And I started to cry.
Somewhere across the ocean is a boy laying in his crib, living a miserable existence. Bone-thin arms. Never held, hardly touched. No one to take care of him, to love him.
Oh, how I wanted to fly over there right then and get him. Pick him up, hold him, cuddle him, un-ball those little fists. Tell him that he is loved.
I have never met him, probably will never get a chance to meet him. But even as I'm typing this up now I have tears falling from my eyes. His pictures haunt me. I love that little boy that I have never met.
Because of various things that I won't go into here, I'm not in a position to adopt him. The Lord has that door closed for now, and it's one of those things where I have to wait to see if the door will ever be opened. I want to adopt him right now. But I just can't.
Oh, but if I could. . .
I feel like he is mine already, even though I will probably never get to be the one to hold him, or rock him to sleep, or tell him of the love of Jesus.
But in a way, he is still mine. He is mine to pray for. I skimmed over the other children's stories, but I have to believe I stopped on his for a reason. Maybe the Lord let him move my heart so strongly for no other reason than that Harvey needs someone, somewhere, who will pray for him to find a family. Someone who thinks about him, someone who wants him, even if they can't have him here.
I hope and pray with my whole heart that someone will step in and save that boy. That someone will love him and give him a family, even if it can't be me. I pray that someone tells him about Jesus.
And I hope that someday, when I get to heaven, I'll see Harvey there. Eternally happy and thriving and whole. And I'll hold him then, and I'll tell him how he touched me even though we never met, and I'll tell him how I prayed for him. And I won't have to cry anymore, because he'll know more love then than any human could have ever given him, and we'll both know the rest of the story.
If any of you would like to see pictures of Harvey or the other children from the post who need homes, please check out this post from No Greater Joy Mom. And would you join me in praying for Harvey (and any of the other children that touch your hearts), that they will find families? My heart is raw right now, and it helps to know other people will be praying for him too.
I read the long version of the story of how Christi and her husband Dan were called to adopt their son, Malakai, and pursue long-term mission work in Guatemala. Their hearts for the Lord just shines through their blog! I know the Lord is going to use them in great ways as they go to work with these kids who have no family.
Christi was kind enough to write an abbreviated version of their story for this blog, and I hope you enjoy it!
I just want to start by thanking you for taking the time to read the story that God is writing with our lives... and a HUGE thank you to Callie for sharing her blog space with us - what a blessing!
First, let me start by introducing ourselves... my wonderful hubby Dan, I'm Christi, our sweet boy Malakai Aweke... and there's a bun in the oven due 3/18!
Our story goes a little something like this...
In 2003, while dating, our eyes were opened to the plight of the orphan. God used the trip that I, Christi, took to the Dominican Republic to change our hearts forever!
About six months prior, I had been introduced to Jesus Christ for the first time in my life. As I started a relationship with HIM and dug into HIS Word, I began to see that He had plans far better than anything I had imagined.
I was given an opportunity to serve overseas for about 4 weeks that summer. While I had no idea how this would happen financially, God pulled together the pieces and I left on a plane for the Dominican Republic that June. I had NEVER flown before, I had NEVER left my family for that long, I was SCARED to leave Dan, and I was serving with 30 others that I had never met!
What happened over the next 4 weeks completely rocked my world!
I knew there were orphans in the world...
I knew there were widows...
I knew there were poor...
I knew there were many injustices....
BUT I had NEVER been face to face with what I was about to experience.
I spent the next 4 weeks reaching out to a village that was filled with witchcraft...
A village where the 'workers' that came in to harvest the surrounding sugar cane fields raped all of the young girls...
A village where children were raising children...
A village where most of the people were walking around naked from lack of clothing...
A village where the children had bloated bellies from lack of food...
A surrounding garbage dump full of HOMES...
families searching for food each day...
Children NOT in school...
Children NOT being cared for...
The look of despair was on the faces of all...
And people that had NEVER heard the TRUTH of Jesus Christ...
Many faces and stories stand out in my mind, but God used this ONE child to grip my heart forever!
For months I would cry myself to sleep wondering if anyone was taking care of him, if
anyone was feeding him, and what would happen to all those precious lives!
I returned not completely understanding HOW to process all that I had just experienced. Through much prayer and seeking the wisdom of my pastor, I shared my desire to serve overseas as a full-time missionary and maybe adopt one day with my amazing boyfriend, Dan. We both knew that God was calling us to a life together, but Dan did not share this desire. I remember something along the lines of, "That's great babe, but I'm a sender, NOT a go-er"...
However, my wise (future) hubby made a commitment that he would pray for these children by name, listen to my stories, help me process all that I had been through, and be supportive of whatever God called
Upon returning, I went through a period of really wrestling with the Lord... wondering how HE could burden my heart so heavily to serve the people of the DR BUT at the same time make it so clear that now was not HIS timing! Dan was absolutely instrumental in helping me to process all that I had been through and encouraged me to continue to seek the Lord's timing and purpose.
During this time, we were both challenged to dig deeper into God's Word and use our gifts to further the Kingdom. While we were serving, we had grown comfortable and were more willing to serve where and when it was most convenient for us, not really being bold in the name of Jesus!
We soon both felt the Lord calling me to again serve the vulnerable overseas. We asked the Lord to show us where and He led me to a trip to Honduras which was later postponed due to political unrest. I was given the option to go to Guatemala or wait a year to go to Honduras. As we prayed, it was Dan that sensed the Lord was leading me to Guatemala. I vividly recall struggling with this decision and Dan telling me that this may be God's plan all along, for me to serve in Guatemala...
God definitely wanted me to go on the Guatemala trip! THIS TRIP CHANGED OUR LIVES!
While many stories stand out in my mind, it was THESE two little girls in particular, God used to change our hearts, especially Dan's heart! Just like the DR trip, HE was using a small child to greatly impact our lives.
The first photo is Milagra- a precious little girl found in a dumpster and the 2nd is Yulisa- a sweet little girl with a big heart that was attached to my hip!
As God would have it, right after I applied to go to Honduras, we were sensing that the Lord was prompting me to serve in a ministry full-time... and I was THRILLED to leave corporate America! We prayed, researched ministries where I could serve, specifically in orphan care or adoption, and surrender this to the Lord and HIS timing! God then called us to my Lifesong for Orphans! God was on the move and we couldn't have been more excited to be involved in all that HE was doing in and through the Lifesong ministry!
We set out on this trip knowing that God had plans for it... to spread the gospel, to love on some children without parents to call their own, to serve the widow, to encourage some teens from desperate situations, and to make an impact for the Kingdom.
As I returned home and TRIED to process all I had experienced, I quickly noticed that not only was I lying awake at night crying myself to sleep thinking about the brokenness I had witnessed..... but Dan was too! He could not get enough of the stories and the photos... something was different this time!
God gave Dan this BEAUTIFUL song that he put to the video below which allowed us many
opportunities to share and advocate for these precious lives.
She's got no one to tuck her in at night... does anyone care? Father, please, stir in me, OPEN my eyes to see.... GOD was opening Dan's eyes to the plight of the orphan... and it was INCREDIBLE!
We were BOTH so broken... people would ask us to share about the trip and we'd both break down... it was ALL we talked about.... we were physically ill thinking of doing anything but going back!
As we left Guatemala, our team gathered around in the airport and asked the Lord to show BOTH Dan and I how HE would have us respond and how we could serve TOGETHER
defending the cause of the fatherless. That spot in the airport is so overwhelming to me!
Over the next months, we sensed the Lord calling us to adopt. We contacted everyone we could get our hands on to try to pursue these 2 sweet girls... and door after door was closed. We made a covenant with the Lord that we WOULD adopt these 2 sweet girls... whenever He called us to. We eventually received the news that ALL adoptions from Guatemala to the U.S. were closed... that we could do nothing, but pray. And pray we did. Fervently!
Check back tomorrow for the rest of the story, including how their son came into their lives!
Also, if you just can't wait until then, you can read the full version of their story on their blog.
Dan and Christi are planning to become full-time missionaries to Guatemala, and they are still in the fundraising phase. They have to raise 75% of their support before they are allowed to go. If you are considering donating so that they can go as planned, here is the link to their donation page. I know they'd appreciate even five dollars so much! Maybe consider giving up that Starbucks I mentioned yesterday?
Part Two coming tomorrow!