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One Way To Spoil The Man In Your Life This Christmas


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I've been realizing lately that I need to show my gratitude for my husband a little bit more.

There are so many things that Derek does for our family.  He works hard to provide for us, which allows me to stay home with our kids.  He gets up with the kids every Saturday morning and feeds them breakfast while I sleep in.  He spends time reading a book to the kids every night.  He is a good man, a man who is committed to his family, and a man who stays.

That's not something that should be taken for granted in a world like ours, where those last three things are not easy to find.

I've been trying to think of little things I can do for Derek to let him know that I've been thinking about him.  It doesn't have to be anything big, but just small things to show him that I see him, that I see what he does for our family every day, and that I know that he's a catch.  I want to spoil him a bit more with everyday luxuries.

I know many of you are married to good men too - and even if you aren't married I would hope for you that you have a dad, brother, or other man in your life who is there when you need them.  Can I encourage you to expend a little effort to let them know that you see what they do every day and are thankful for them?  It's an especially fun time of year to think of fun surprises with Christmas right around the corner!

And that leads my to a little suggestion, if you aren't sure where to start spoiling the man in your life...start with his car!


I happen to be married to someone who is really into cars in general, but even if your guy is not, I think everyone appreciates riding around in a sparkling, beautifully detailed car.  Derek has actually asked me in the past for car cleaning supplies because he like the process of detailing his car and showing it off afterward.  I was excited to find the Armor All Car Care Gift Pack to give to him - I was sure he would love it!

You can find the Armor All Car Care Gift Pack in the automotive center at Walmart (that's where I got mine - and I've even got a coupon for you! Take advantage of the $3 off digital coupon offer for the Armor All Car Care Gift Pack from Walmart, while supplies last!



The kit is a complete car-cleaning kit, at a really great value.  When I gave the Armor All Gift Pack to Derek, he opened it up and was so impressed with all the products that come with it!  We were excited to try them out on his car - and he gave me a little run down on how to properly detail a car using the products in this gift pack.



So now, I pass the knowledge on to you, in case you want to take it up a notch and also surprise your man by cleaning his car for him (I didn't go that far, because Derek actually enjoys cleaning the car himself, and he is better at it than me!).  What better way to spoil the men in your life with an everyday treat like a sparkling clean car?




Step One: Remove any clutter or trash from the car.

This probably goes without saying, but I'm trying to be thorough.


Step Two:  Wipe down the interior glass with Armor All Glass Wipes.

These glass wipes are a no-streak, no-residue formula, which is fantastic.



Step Three: Wipe down the dashboard, upholstery, steering wheel, etc, with the Armor All Cleaning Wipes.

Can I just say how convenient these are too?  I'm pretty sure Derek is going to keep these in the car for touch-ups as things get dirty on the go!




Step Four: Apply Armor All Original Protectant to dashboard, steering wheel, etc.

This keeps vinyl, rubber, and plastic surfaces shiny and clean and helps prevent cracking, discoloration, or premature aging!  It's the finishing touch.



Step Five: Vacuum the floor and seats.

Derek does this after cleaning the dash so he can vacuum up any dust or crumbs that might fall on the floor.


Step Six: Wash the exterior of the car with the Armor All Wash and Wax.

This stuff washes and waxes in one step, and the Armor All Car Care Gift Pack even includes a sponge and microfiber cloth that are easy on the surface of your car, so you don't even have to worry about buying those seperately!  This product helps protect the surface of your car and keeps it shiny. Derek tells me the waxing helps dirt and water not stick as much too, which is especially useful for keeping the car shinier in the winter, with all the snow and mud.




Step Seven: Focus on the tires.

This Gift Pack comes with two tire products - the Quicksilver Wheel And Tire Cleaner, and Extreme Tire Shine Spray (which keeps your tires that rich black).  I was very impressed with these products.  I watched Derek clean the wheel with it, and it made it look practically brand new!


(I just noticed that Derek didn't use the microfiber cloth for the tires - I think he didn't want to ruin his brand-new cloth yet!  Our tires were pretty filthy.)


Tip: The bucket included with the Armor All Car Care Gift Pack is perfect to fill with warm water for washing the exterior, especially in the winter when hoses aren't an option! Then you can store the products back in the bucket when you are done!




Derek has tried a few different car detailing products over the years, and he is really impressed with the Armor All Car Care Gift Pack and how well all the products worked!  It was almost a little mini-date for us to clean his car together, but if you are trying to surprise your guy and clean his car yourself, the Armor All Car Care Gift Pack has everything you need in one bucket!  If your guy is like mine and likes to do the cleaning himself, this pack would make an excellent gift too!  I'm keeping it in mind for my dad and brother, because this would make a great gift for them too.

The bottom line is that our guys deserve to know that they are loved and appreciated, at Christmas and all through the year.  The Armor All Car Care Gift Pack is just one idea for something we could use to surprise them and let them know that they are better-than-ordinary and irreplaceable to us.




Have you ever cleaned your man's car for him? Do do other little things to show your husband (or father, brother, significant other) that you appreciate them?  

I'm trying to get better at doing something special for Derek on a more regular basis, so share your ideas below!







When Your Marriage Needs A Little TLC (With Grit & Grace)




(One of my favorite pictures ever of Derek and me, taken at our maternity session with Clarice.  Derek thought the pose was awkward, so he stuck his nose into my cheek and sniffed, which made me crack up laughing.  We are that couple.  Also, you see where Clarice gets her nose-scrunching.)

Last week I admitted that I watch the Bachelor, and I told you the main reason why.  Do you want to know one of the secondary reasons? All that ooshy-gooshy stuff reminds me of the days when Derek and I were the ones with the shining eyes that go along with young love.

Your Husband Isn't Your College Roommate (And 4 Other Things I Never Knew About Marriage) | A Guest Post


Your Husband Isn't Your College Roommate, And Four Other Things I Never Knew About Marriage | Through Clouded Glass



Cards on the table: I don’t write this post as a sage, old, married woman. My husband and I are inching closer to our three year anniversary; a lifetime to go and countless lessons more to learn. Even still, if you’ve been married for over 24 hours you’ll know that this sacred union isn’t easy. Sometimes it’s downright hard. Difficult. Devastating. Sometimes marriage drives you to consuming a tub of ice cream alone on your couch, watching Love, Actually and wondering, “Why doesn’t he act like that?” (A purely hypothetical situation, you understand.)



Through A Man's Eyes (A Review)



If you are like a lot of women, you have heard for most of your life that "men are visual".  But do you really know what that means?  After reading Through A Man's Eyes by Shaunti Feldhahn and Craig  Gross, I suspect that most women have no idea the extent to which men and women's brains are wired differently.  There is no way we can actually know what our men go through as visual creatures since most women have no real frame of reference.

This book describes in scientific, practical, and emotional terms what it means for men to be visual.  I feel like I have read a lot on this subject in the past and had a pretty good idea of what "men are visual" meant for my husband and sons, but I learned so much through this book.

Man Stuff by Josh Turner - Giveaway!

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I think I have mentioned before that Derek and I are country music fans.  I am a fan because I grew up listening to country music, and appropriately, I happened to live in the country.  Everyone listened to country music where I grew up, but I think I would have liked it regardless.  I love how a lot of the music is family focused, and I like songs I can sing along to!

Derek and I have been Josh Turner fans for a long time - he sings one of my favorite songs.  When I saw that he wrote a devotional for men called "Man Stuff", I asked Derek if he would read it if I requested it, and he said he definitely would!

This is a book that is geared toward husbands and fathers, and it is filled with practical encouragement.  Derek has been enjoying the book so far!  I told him I needed a quote from him for my review, and he said:

"He shares a lot of stories from his life and his walk with the Lord.  I wouldn't necessarily call it a devotional, but I think it's an encouraging book, and it can help you to focus on godly priorities."

There you go, straight from my man.

Even though I requested this book for my husband, I have been enjoying it too!   Each chapter is a different story from Josh Turner's life, including a corresponding Bible verse, with wisdom on how to be a godly man, husband, and father (Turner has three kids).  I think I tend to have a different idea of what constitutes a "devotional", and both Derek and I agreed that we wouldn't necessarily categorize this as a devotional book - more just an encouraging book with stories on Christian living, which we also appreciate.

I think it is really interesting to read more about Turner and his family since we are fans of his music!  I like the simple truths that Turner shares in each chapter.  I haven't read through the entire book yet, but I think lot of the stories he shares are things that men would resonate with.  The book lives up to it's name, "Man Stuff".

I think this book would make a great gift, especially for men that like Josh Turner's music, since a lot of the content is autobiographical.   Something to keep in mind since Christmas is right around the corner!

Tommy Nelson is offering a copy of this book to one of you!  Fill out the form below for a chance to win!

Note: I received this book for free from Tommy Nelson in exchange for this review - this is my honest opinion.

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Confession: I'm Not A Naturally Good Wife

Last year I wrote a series called "Derek And Me" leading up to our five year wedding anniversary.  A few weeks later I wrote this post, and I'm not sure why it has taken me so long to share it.  I wrote it when my emotions were raw and I was feeling the most insecure about my wifely abilities, but I think so much of it still applies today.  I have to try hard in marriage.  It's not easy for me.  But in the end, I think my effort will be worth it.  I'm hoping those of you who can relate will find these "confessions" encouraging!

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A few weeks ago I wrote my last couple posts in my Derek and Me series, about our wedding vows.  I published them, and then a few days later I started second guessing what I wrote, and I took them down and tweaked them a bit before republishing them.  I didn't majorly changed them, but the incident made me think about exactly why I felt self-conscious about what I wrote.  And I realized one of the reasons I don't write marriage posts that often is because I feel a little insecure in this area.

When I thought it through, I realized that I'm insecure because I feel like a failure more in the role of being a wife than in any other role that I occupy.  I know I'm a good mom, a good hygienist, a good friend, daughter, etc.

But I don't really feel like I'm a good wife.

Paul's words in Romans 7 resonate with me right now:

"I do not understand what I do.  For what I want to do, I do not do, but what I hate I do. . . I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out.  For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do - this I keep on doing."  (Romans 7:15, 19)

That's how I feel in my role as a wife.  I know what kind of wife I want to be.  I know the good I should do.  But instead I just keep on doing what I don't want to do.

I'm hard to live with.  I'm bossy.  I get irritable, I get snappy, I say things I know I am going to regret.  And I hate it.  I want so bad to do good for my husband - to be a fun, happy, understanding wife, someone he comes to when he needs a break from the world.  I want to be a good wife.  But instead I act like someone I wouldn't even want to be around, and I don't know why.

I think being a "good wife" comes naturally for some women in their marriage relationships.  But it doesn't come naturally for me - in the area of my marriage, my sin nature wins more often than I like to admit.  Marriage is hard, not because of Derek at all - he is so understanding and sweet.  It's hard because I have such a hard time doing what I know is right in the context of my relationship with Derek.

C.S. Lewis said in Mere Christianity that you don't really know how bad you are until you really try to be good.  Because you will fail, and you'll see how badly you fail.  You can't do the good you want to do without God's help.

I think maybe this isn't easy for me because this is an area that the Lord wants me to practice leaning on Him.  Because I already know that when I try to get better by myself, I fail miserably.  Paul goes on to say this:

"For in my inner being I delight in God's Law; but I see another law at work in me, waging war agains the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me.  What a wretched man I am!  Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death?  Thanks be to God who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord!" (Romans 7:22-25)

Paul recognized that he couldn't fully do right in his own power, because his sinful nature was still at work in him.  He needed Jesus to deliver him from his sinful nature, and I realize that I need that too!  I need Jesus to deliver me from my sinful nature when it rears it's ugly head in my marriage.  I won't ever be completely free of it until I reach Heaven, but I think through relying on God's help (and only through relying on His help) and keeping my focus on Him, He can help me do the good I want to do in my marriage more often.

And you know, I think because this is an area that is harder for me, in the end I'll get more rewards in Heaven through my struggle to be a good wife than a woman who is naturally a good wife.

Everyone has their areas in which they struggle, and though a naturally good wife may not have to struggle to do good in her marriage, she might have to struggle in another area - and she will get her rewards for persevering in whatever that may be.  But for me, it gives me hope to think that just because I'm not as naturally good at being a wife as someone else, it doesn't mean I'm a failure.

It just means that I have more opportunity for rewards in this area if I continue on and persevere.

It means I have an opportunity for character development, because perseverance develops character, and character develops hope (Romans 5:3-4).

 It means I have this opportunity for growth in my relationship with the Lord, because I have to rely on Him to help me in my marriage - I can't do it by myself.

And it gives me more opportunity to know of God's grace - because I am so aware of my failings in this area, it makes it that much more aware of how much I need Him.  It makes me realize how amazing it is that the Lord would be willing to save me and love me, wretch that I am.  Only when I realize how much I need Him can I truly appreciate what He did for me on the cross!  Those who are well (or think they are well) do not need (or don't think they need) a doctor. Those who are sick and know it are the ones who realize how much they need a doctor and appreciate Him that much more.

These are the thoughts that keep me trying, even when I feel like a failure.  I'm not sure it'll ever be easy for me to show Derek love the way I know I should.  But I think the Lord smiles when He sees me turning to Him for help and just trying.  And the thought that I might please Him through my attempts, as well as make my marriage better?  That makes it worth all the effort.

The "S" Word



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I like baths more than showers.  Normally my bath time routine involves filling up the tub with the hottest water the spout will give me, soaking and reading for a while, then blow drying my hair.  Then I either watch something short on Netflix or listen to a podcast while I straighten my hair (if you haven't guessed, I have to work this in while the kids are napping!).  It's my "me-time", my favorite way to relax.

The other day after I finished drying my hair I decided to listen to a Focus On The Family podcast, and they opened the program with the question "What do you think of when you think of submission?"  Some women came on and talked about masters and servants, being a doormat, and one woman talked about Christ submitting to the Father, but she didn't like the way it applied to marriage as much.  I paused the podcast for a minute and thought through my own "definition" of submission, and this is what came to mind:

I think submission means being willing to take a step back and let your husband be the leader.

This is going to look differently and vary in difficulty depending on the situation, and I'm also not going to pretend that there aren't men that sometimes abuse this concept (which is probably why this is such a sticking point for so many Christian women).

There are a few things I think submission does not mean.  I don't think submission means that you never state your opinion.  Being a submissive wife doesn't mean you have to roll over and be a doormat.  It doesn't mean you do something morally wrong or questionable in an effort to be submissive.  It doesn't mean your husband controls your every move.  It definitely does not mean you remain in a dangerous or abusive situation in an effort to "submit".

As for what I do think submission means - I think when this aspect of marriage is done right, the wife and husband are both able to discuss and express their thoughts on a situation, and the husband will listen to what his wife has to say.  A man who loves his wife and who is wise will not dismiss his wife's thoughts or disregard her feelings on a matter.

For the wife, submission means being willing to let go - not always insisting on having things "her way".  It means actively letting her husband lead the family, even in those times when she disagrees, even sometimes when the husband may not be handling the situation in the best way.

Submission doesn't mean that marriage is not a partnership - both people's opinions do matter, and options should be discussed!  But no organization works well without a head.  If a business has two presidents and the presidents disagree on a big decision, things could get ugly pretty quickly. The business might split.  There has to be a head leader, the one who makes the final decision when not everyone is in agreement.  As Christian wives we are called to step back and let our husband be in that position.  He'll be the "president" of the family.  It doesn't mean the wife's thoughts and opinions don't matter, but the "business" of the family needs an official leader, someone who has the final say.  There can't be two "heads" if things are going to run smoothly.

This isn't easy!  I think it's a natural tendency for a lot of women to want to control things (especially our husbands).  The Bible even tells us that women will struggle with this.  We want that control, and that's why submission is so hard.


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(Derek and me, goofing off at our 5-year anniversary session!  This is Derek's brooding model look.  Actually I'm not sure what we were doing here, but I'm sure some joke was involved.   Derek is hilarious whenever we try to take pictures together.  It's a wonder we get any good ones.)


I can say all of this with my head as I sit here typing, but it's a lot harder in practicality.  I am a bit of a control freak myself.  I direct too much.  I demand my own way too much.  I get angry when Derek disagrees with me.  Even when I do the right thing and take the step back, I am definitely ready to jump right back in and remind him of what I said if it later becomes apparent that I was right.

I am not "good" at submission - I'm still working on it, but I want to improve because I want to obey God here.  I want to make Him proud of me.  When I let my husband lead, without any ulterior motives, without trying to manipulate or control things, without looking for my chance to show the superiority of my position later, I think God smiles down at me.

I think it's important to also recognize that submission doesn't just involve your relationship with your husband.  It involves your relationship with God.  He is the one who tells us that the man should be the leader of the family.


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For some reason the culture has us thinking that it is a sign of weakness to be the one to concede the point, the one to "give in" when there is a disagreement.  I would beg to differ.  I think it takes a pretty strong, secure woman to realize that God has organized the family this way for a reason.  When we allow our husbands to lead, we are ultimately not choosing to "obey" our husbands - we are choosing to trust and obey God.

That is not weak.  That is brave.  It is strong.  Even though it might be scary, and things might not always turn out like we want, God will reward us in the end for following His word when it comes to submission.  I don't know about you, but I want my reward, and the thought of that is what keeps me trying to do better. I think those treasures in Heaven will be worth not getting my way sometimes while I'm here.

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For more good insights on submission, including the biblical basis and practical encouragement, I highly recommend this book (and I'm not being paid to say that)!  I grew up with the idea of submission, and I still got a lot of new thoughts out of it, so I think it would be helpful for women of any background who want to study this subject more deeply and get a biblical perspective on it.

For all you Christian ladies out there, is this an area in which you struggle?  What has helped you with the idea of submission?  I'd love to hear your thoughts!

How My Man Was Different


In honor of Valentine's Day this week, I thought I'd reflect a little bit on my first real Valentine - my husband!  

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(One of the pictures from our 5-Year Anniversary session last summer!  For some reason I never got around to sharing them, so I'll scatter a few in some posts here and there in the next couple months.  I love how they turned out!)

I was thinking the other day about when we first met.   I met Derek during my first year of hygiene school.  I knew I liked him almost immediately.  I think what attracted me to him was that Derek was different from most of the boys I had known or dated before.  I was thinking about what specifically impressed me in those early days, and I thought of a few things . . .

He shook people's hands firmly.  When he first introduced himself to me, Derek shook my hand, and I liked his firm grip.  To me, that said a lot.  I just hated having a guy give me a limp, soft hand to shake.  Yuck.  There are a lot of things I know Derek will teach my boys well, and one is how to give a good, firm handshake.   

He actually asked me out.  I used to get so annoyed with guys who clearly liked me but either 1) wouldn't ask me out for some unclear reason, or 2) did that whole we'll-just-hang-out-in-groups routine.  It works for some people, but not for me - I liked knowing exactly what we were doing.  There was never that weird "is this, like, a date?" question hanging over anything.  We were going out.  On a date.  So beautifully simple.

He took the initiative.  He introduced himself to me, he asked for my phone number, he asked me out, he kept our conversations going.  I wanted a man who would take the lead, and Derek did.

He had a job.  I mean a real job, as opposed to other guys I knew who were just . . . floating.  He wasn't a career student, he wasn't going to just flit from job to job until he figured out what he wanted to do.  He had a direction, he had a career.  That was attractive to me.

He could talk to my dad.  I don't know why, but so many of the boys I knew didn't really spend much time talking to my dad.  Derek made an effort to talk to my dad when he saw him, and I loved that he showed my dad that respect.

He never left me in the dark.  There were no games with Derek - he let me know how he felt right from the start.  He held my hand, he wrote me notes, he bought me gifts, he didn't leave me hanging after a date.  The fact that there were no games being played was huge to me, and it let me know that he was serious about our relationship.  He wasn't going to waste my time.

These were just a few of the things that made me like him from the start!  There were a lot more things I liked about him (obviously, the fact that he was strong Christian, etc.), but these things made him stand out.  He was everything I wanted, the perfect fit for me.

I remember thinking at the time that the other guys I had been interested in before seemed like boys compared to Derek - without even realizing it, he had proved to me that he was a good man.  I am the luckiest girl in the world that he chose me!

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My Bull Rider (And Some Scary Pictures)


Remember way back in April when Derek went to that bull riding school?

For those of you who weren't reading last year - I temporarily lost my mind and gave Derek money to go to bull riding school as a birthday present.

I say that half in jest, because I was actually really glad he got a chance to go - this was one of those items that was on Derek's personal bucket list, and he had been talking about it since before we got married.  For the last couple years I had poo-pooed the idea every time he brought it up because I was secretly saving up some money for him to go!

Anyway, you can read the full story of his weekend at bull riding school here, but at the time I didn't get many good pictures.  Thankfully the school had a professional photographer on hand to get shots of all the students, and I'm finally remembering to share the photos they sent us!

Now as you look through these pictures, imagine if that was your husband on the back of that beast . . .


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Do I think he looks pretty sexy riding that bull?  Yes.

Do I want him to do it again.  No.  Definitely no.

Sorry Babe.  I love you!

(P.S.  You do look good though . . .)

Smoothing Out The Rough Spots

In case you missed my giveaway last week, one of the entries was to "answer a question", in which I asked what you all would like to read more of on my blog.  And "more marriage posts" came out as one of the winning answers (ie. multiple people mentioned it).  

Honestly, I've been thinking about writing a post about marriage for a while, but my plans never quite come to fruition on it.  And the request for a post on the topic of marriage made me think about why I haven't written more posts on the subject, and I realized it's because this is one of those areas of my life where I have no illusions of thinking I know what I'm doing.  

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I always find it a bit funny when someone who has been married all of a year (or less) talks about how they never even had that "first fight" with their husband, and then they proceed to give advice on marriage.  I personally don't think you're really qualified to give marriage advice unless you've successfully made it through one "big" argument.  Since Derek and I have (actually several big-ish arguments, to be honest), I figured I should get over my insecurities on the subject and just say what's on my mind.

Marrying Derek was the best decisions I've made in my life, behind accepting Jesus as my Lord and Savior.  Being married has been one of the most stretching and humbling experiences in my life so far, even more than motherhood.  It's been stretching because when you are married you realize the need to put someone else's thoughts, feelings, and needs above your own; it's been humbling because through the last four years of being married I've realized how terribly bad I am at doing that.  

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C.S. Lewis once wrote that you don't realize how bad you really are until you really try to be good. I think that's absolutely true.  Just when I think I'm making progress something happens to show me that I'm really just as selfish as I was at the start.  

I've always followed the "rules" and done what was right, and was generally considered to be a "good girl".  But marriage has made my selfishness, my pride, my sinful nature glaringly apparent to me, and it's a reminder of how much I need a Savior too.  Just as much as the most obvious offender I can think of.

In Proverbs it says that "As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another." (Proverbs 27:17).  That's especially true of marriage.  Learning to live with your husband, accepting all the ways you are different, learning to think in terms of your marriage "team" instead of just yourself, and seeing more clearly all of your faults - all of that has a sharpening effect.  I can't tell you how many times I've gotten upset at Derek for something he did or said, and then shortly after (even the same day), I found myself doing or saying the same thing to him.  

And each time one more little rough area is filed down, just a bit sharper than it was before. 

Will I ever be done being sharpened?  Probably not.  Will I ever feel like I've arrived to that "good wife" status?  I'm not sure.  But I do feel sure that God is using my marriage as one of His tools in the process of making me more like Christ, and without being married to Derek I couldn't be refined in quite the same way.

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That's the beauty of marriage.  You may clash with each other periodically, but each time God can use it to knock off another rough spot, until in the end you can represent and serve Him better having been together than you could have apart.  

It's another way to bring glory to God, despite even the rough patches and imperfections.  And I think that's the whole purpose of being married in the first place.  


Soulmates And Bargain Books

The bargain book section is irresistible to me. I love searching through the rows and rows of books at my local Christian bookstore and seeing if I can pick up anything good for under five bucks. Sometimes you end up getting what you pay for, but occasionally you find a gem hiding between the Christian chick-lit and the reference books.

The latest gem I've found is a book called "When Two Become Three: Nurturing Your Marriage After Baby Arrives" by Mark E. Crawford.



A new baby can sometimes be a challenge to a marriage, just because it's a change. It's completely normal for a baby to change your relationship - but you have to learn to work through the change together. I'm definitely up for improving our marriage relationship, so I snagged this book to see what it had to offer.

So far it's really good - I think it's completely relevant for any married couple, whether you have a new baby or not. And how much did I pay for it? All of three bucks.

Like I said, I love the bargain book section.

I read something in it yesterday that got me thinking:


" . . . A soulmate is created rather than discovered. In other words, if you and your spouse make a commitment to spend years together building a family, creating a mission statement, changing and evolving as people, celebrating life's best moments and sufering through life's worst moment's together, then after many years, you may find that the person you've traveled that journey with is, in fact, your soulmate. "


I had never thought about it that way before, but as I think about that quote now, it makes perfect sense. I think it's probably the best way to look at the marriage relationship.

If you expect that a soulmate is someone that you find, when you go through rough times in your relationship, you may start to think that you made a mistake, and that you didn't marry your "soulmate" after all.

But if you expect that as you travel through the hard times with your spouse, working through the issues in your relationship, going through all of life's changes, building your life together, that you will gradually grow to become soulmates . . . it makes every hard time and every conflict a challenge to overcome together, instead of a trial that can tear you apart.

All of a sudden, the status of being with your "soulmate" isn't something you may or may not find, but something you work toward together, something you achieve when you stick it out through every difficulty, something you can aspire to and reach someday with alot of prayer and effort and God's grace.

There is something precious and beautiful about that.

What do you think? Have you ever thought about the concept of "soulmates" in this way before?


For A Laugh

I was cleaning the house the other day and realized we were out of all-purpose cleaner.

We keep a grocery list going on the refrigerator so I can make sure I get everything when I make a grocery trip. I walked over to the fridge to put 409 on the list, and this is what I saw:



See that last item before 409? Courtesy of my hubby. He makes me laugh!

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