Saving The Males

There is one thing that I adore about snowy days, and that is that it allows me lots of uninterrupted time to catch up on my reading. I recently rented a book from the library, and I thought I was going to have to renew it to finish it, but I was able to get through the rest of it today, as I drank my cup of hot coffee, ate cookies that I shouldn't have eaten, and watched the snow come down.

The book that I'm referring to is Save The Males: Why Men Matter And Why Women Should Care by Kathleen Parker. I saw it on the website of one of my favorite talk radio hosts, Laura Ingraham, and because it's always annoyed me how TV commercials always make men look dumb, I thought I'd give the book a try.

Let me first say that this book is not for the faint of heart or those with weak stomachs. The book covers some topics concerning men and women (some of the subjects that are inappropriate for younger readers), and the way the book talked about the degree to which our culture has fallen left me feeling somewhat disgusted. A little too explicit on certain topics, but the overall point of the book was good and very enlightening. I knew some of this awful stuff goes on in the world, but the author really put it into perspective regarding the damage that is done in the process to men, women, children, and families in general. It makes me want to go take on all the insane people in our country who are contributing to this and bring them to their senses.

There is one chapter of the book that I recommend skipping. There is a warning at the beginning of the chapter for "reader discretion" so you'll know which one it is. I read the first part of it, but my stomach couldn't take it, so I skipped the rest. The rest of the book was helpful enough.

The main theme of the book is how the feminist movement has basically gone so far overboard that they've put the future for our children in jeopardy. Men are demonized everywhere we look in today's culture. There are hardly any TV shows today in which the father is portrayed as responsible and intelligent. You know what I'm talking about - in TV shows and commercials men are portayed as stupid, ignorant, lazy, and even sometimes abusive, while women are smart, witty wonder-moms who do it all and are always right. As I said earlier, this was my main annoyance and one of the reasons I even decided to read the book.

The book covered so much more than just that.

From diminishing the importance of the role of fathers in the family, to making it politically incorrect for men to be manly, to women showing off their bodies at increasingly young ages, to the increasing trend towards single motherhood and the attitude that men are not needed (even going so far as women using donor sperm to make men unnecessary), to the "hook-up" culture prevelant among today's young people, to the danger to the lives of our men and women in uniform by allowing women to participate in military capacities that they are just not suited for, this book covered everything.

One of the things that made me most angry was reading about how standards are lowered in the military in order to allow women to participate. I heard about this first hand from my sister's boyfriend who is involved in a branch of the military (I won't say which). In order for the guys to pass a certain class involving pulling yourself up (probably into an airplane or some such thing ) the guys have to do "x" amount of pull-ups. The girls had to do a fraction of the amount of pull-ups in order to pass the class. The military lowered the standards in order to allow the women to participate - which is so wrong! This isn't a gym class people, this is the military, and people's lives are depending on the ability of our armed forces to survive in combat situations. If some of the girls can't do what is required of the guys, then they should fail the class. No excpetions. That would be true male/female equility in our military. If the girls are able to do the same thing as the guys acceptably then they can be in the military, but if they can't, the military shouldn't have to let them enlist. To me it seems simple.

Not only do women in the military endanger everyone's lives because (let's face it) women just aren't physically as capable at certain tasks as men, but men in the military often put themselves and others at risk in order to protect the women. They do this because it's hard-wired in men to protect women, and no amount of training is going to eliminate that instinct; unless we do it in such a way that strips them of their humanity, and that isn't good for anyone.

There were so many compelling issues and points in this book, but I don't have time to cover them all. It was interesting to read a book on the importance of men and traditional family values from the perspective of an author who is not a Christian - she is after all, looking at these topics from a strictly "what is best for society" perspective, and it's interesting how what's best for society according to an objective book correlates so closely to what God tells us in the Bible anyway. However, because it was written by a non-Christian, some of the language isn't always appropriate and the topics she uses to make her point are sometimes too explicit - I know she's trying to shock some of these feminists to their senses, but in the process some of the material lands in the "I don't want to fill my mind with that" category. So be forewarned of that.

Because of that I can't give a whole-hearted recomendation of the book, but I would half-way recommend reading this book just in case you have a boy someday (just be ready to skip some of the topics). If you can successfully get through the book (there were certain sections that made me almost want to call it quits - some of the sins in our world today that the book addresses were too much information), it will make you look at men and our culture in a whole new light.

It's certainly made me want to be a teacher so all those poor boys in public school who aren't allowed to be boys don't have to constantly fight their nature or be put on Ritalin (though honestly I don't think I could abide by the public school system's rules, so this one is probably out). And it definitely makes me want to raise my boys in such a way that they don't have to apologize for their masculine tendencies (which are only natural anyway), to try to assist my husband as much as possible when he tries to teach them how to be men, and to just let them be boys and do all those boyish things that boys should do that are so often denied them in today's society. Hopefully the anti-men culture that is not only accepted but encouraged today won't foil my efforts - but with the Lord's help I'm hoping to do my part to raise my share of the next generation in such a way that I can also help to "save the males" by doing so.
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Jenene said...

Yes, yes, and yes. I couldn't have said it better.

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