Moms And Babies–Venessa

This week I’m featuring Venessa from A Journey Of Love!  I love Venessa’s blog as she writes about life with her little girl, and I especially appreciate how she is so open about sharing her family’s adoption process.  Read on to learn a little bit more about her!

Tell us a little about yourself.

I am a full time stay at home mom and a part time child and family therapist. I live in the desert which I am not a fan of in the summer but I have yet convinced my husband to move! I love Jesus, blogging, coffee, reading, taking naps with my daughter, my husband, and spending time with my family which includes many of my dear friends. I am a want –to- be crafter even though I am not good at it but, I am determined to learn! I am learning to love each moment as they come and not worry so much about the future.

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What's your baby's name and how old is she?

My daughter is best known by her middle name Rose or by Little Miss (which is what I call her on my blog). She is 11 months old!

Give us an idea of what a typical day looks like for you.

The typical day doesn’t really exist in our house. Rose tends to change things up on a regular basis around here. We start our day at about 7:30 am. She will have a bottle and we will get some snuggle time in before she wants to have at her toys. We do all sorts of activities but lately she has been into walking with push toys or standing up on her own! Can I just say that I am not ready for her to walk!

She usually naps once in the morning around 10:30 or 11:00 after some cereal and fruit. Her nap is only about 1 hour long then it is up in time to see daddy for lunch. He is able to have lunch at home every day to spend some time with us.

She will nap again around 3:00pm for another hour or so if we are lucky-some days she skips this nap which makes for a very interesting afternoon!

We have dinner as a family on the nights that I don’t work too late ( I work 3 evenings a week). We love having some play time together before it is time to wind her down for the night.

Bed time for her is usually around 9:30pm after some stories, a bottle and a prayer.

My bedtime is usually a bit later than that as I try to have some time with my hubby and I try to get some chores done before the next day. I am done about 10:30pm, just in time for a few hours of sleep before she wakes up for a feeding (around 3:30 am).

If you had to choose three words to describe your baby's personality, what would they be?

Happy, adventurous, talkative

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What's your favorite part about being a mom?

My favorite part would have to be growing and nurturing a relationship with her. Rose came to us by way of infant domestic adoption so we didn’t have a chance to connect before her birth in a way that most moms do with their babies. Plus, she was a preemie and in the NICU for 6 days so she had multiple care takers in the very beginning. We have had to learn about each other and trust each other and sometimes that can be stressful and difficult with an infant. In the end though, she looks at me and knows that I am her mommy and knows that she can trust me to meet her needs, and I look at her and without question know she is my daughter. Our relationship has grown so much in 11 months and I am so excited to see how it continues to grow! It is pretty amazing.

Do you have any beauty tips for new moms?

Ha, probably not ones that you should follow! Most days you will find my in comfy pants and a shirt with my hair up in a ponytail! My biggest tip would be- take some time for yourself during the day to re-energize. For me, that is showering every day when the hubby is home for lunch. It allows me to feel refreshed and ready to go for the rest of the day. It is also a nice mid-day break for me. If hubby can’t come home, I will shower at her morning nap. Even if no makeup hits my face that day, I still feel so much better just having that 30 minutes to myself-and yes, I do drag out my showers when possible for extra alone time!

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What have you and your husband done since your baby's arrival to keep your relationship strong?

Rose is pretty much involved in our everyday routines that we had before which we feel is a good thing. We didn’t want a child to become the focus while our relationship fell to the background. For the first 6 months of her life that was hard because we were home bound due to her being a preemie, but now we just take her along for the ride. She adds to our life which I think automatically bonds the hubby and I in a way that we haven’t been bonded together yet. We also have committed to have quiet time with each other after she goes to bed and a date night away from home at least once a month. It is important to us to keep our relationship a priority while enjoying being a family.

Are there any must-have products that you would recommend to other moms?

This is hard because I found that many products that were recommended to me, Rose hated…like the moby wrap and swaddle wraps! But, the only thing we could not live without was the swing! She slept in it for about 5 months! She loved it and we loved it too because she would sleep! The other thing I use a ton of is the baby bullet. If you can make your baby food, I would recommend it. Let me just say though, you don’t have to have the baby bullet to do it, I just didn’t have a food processor and it was a gift. I use that thing every week and it has been super easy to make her food, plus it is cheaper in my opinion which is a huge benefit since we have lost most of my salary due to me staying home. Most other items I feel are dependent on the child so it gets tricky.

What has been your favorite moment or outing as a family so far?

Now that we are able to go out more, I think I just love taking her out in general is so fun. Whether we are going to the park, zoo or store, I love to see how curious she is about her environment. She loves seeing other kids outside and tries to talk with them or she will squeal if she sees an animal run by. Those moments are the best!


Any advice for first-time mothers?

Know that you are going to mess up a million times and it is still going to be alright. I feel that there is so much pressure to be the “perfect mom” and my reality is that I am a mom with many flaws. It is ok if you are not sure what they want when they are crying in the middle of the night, it is ok to wish that they would just sleep 15 more minutes so you could actually finish a chore, it is ok to feel a wide variety of emotions in one day! Motherhood is a journey that takes you on all sorts of emotional rollercoasters. I have experienced pure joy at times and then been completely frustrated and balling my eyes out at other times. It is the journey that matters and where you will find absolute beauty in being a mom. Oh, and I will also say…sleep when they sleep! Especially in the beginning-forget about the house, it will still stand, your sanity is way more important than a spotless house.

Thanks Venessa!  To read more check out Venessa’s blog!

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Natalie said...

Oh, she is so so precious! WHat a doll baby :)

Stephanie said...

Love Venessa! Thanks for sharing :)

Stephanie said...

Love Venessa! Thanks for sharing :)

BARBIE said...

I loved reading your interview here Venessa! You and Little Miss are beautiful!

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