When It’s Time To Let Them Go


My final tip would be do know when it’s time to let someone go.

This “tip” is less on friendship itself, and more on keeping your sanity and dignity when a friendship is just not working.

You should not be the only person making an effort. You should not have to deal with repeated backstabbing. You should not have to deal with repeated insulting or insensitive comments or actions on the part of your “friend”. Some people are not good friends, and will never be good friends. Some people forget how to be good friends. You do not have to keep trying to be friends with someone who is repeatedly hurting you, intentionally or neglectfully.

Sometimes you need to let them go.

It doesn’t mean you aren’t being a good friend. It doesn’t mean you can’t still love them as we are called to love others in God’s Word. It just means you have self-respect. You shouldn’t have to “beg” to be someone’s friend when they are making no effort in the friendship. You don’t have to keep subjecting yourself to pain if your “friend” repeatedly does hurtful things. You shouldn’t do that to yourself.

These are not things that friends do. Move on, and invest in some healthy friendships. Invest in those who care about you and who want to be friends with you too.

Those are the friendships that will last, and those are the friendships you want.

When do you know that it’s time to let a friendship go?



I’ve had such a fun time doing this series on Friendship, and reading all of the posts you guys have written as well!  I feel like there is so much more I could say on the subject (and I’m sure so much more you could say too).  Who knows, I might write more on friendship in the future and “add” it to the series.

If you all still have something you want to share about friendship, you have until the end of this week to add your link!  Thank you to everyone who decided to link-up – so many wise tidbits from all you ladies.  I enjoyed reading every one of your posts!



Other posts (of mine) in this series:

On Friendships That End

Starting A Friendship

Making Conversation

Maintenance Of Friendship

Life Changes And Friends

Parties - Just Go

Reasons Not To Gossip


You may also like:
LeAnna said...

I agree with this wholeheartedly. Some people aren't the type of friends you need. They may be a good friend to someone else, but not you. And that's OKAY! I think that was hardest for me to accept. You don't have to be friends with everyone to show that you are a good friend.

Tami said...

I think this is one of the hardest lessons to learn when it comes to friendships. I have a hard time letting go even when I know someone is not good for me!

Katie said...

I absolutely agree. Sometimes the best way to love someone and forgive someone for how they treat you is to not be around them, and I think a lot of people don't understand that! I also love how LeAnna put it, that they may be a better friend to someone else. LOVE that!

Dove of Snow said...

Eloquently written, m'dear! I totally agree!! I've experienced the short stick so many times when it comes to friendship . . . . and a few years ago, I finally grew tired of it. Fed up. I still find myself fed up sometimes now, however, as I'm always having to re-establish proper boundaries to protect myself from being walked upon by every other person I meet, practically!! :-T Your post reminded me of some of the awesome though not always easy truths I highlighted in my post on Boundaries http://doveofsnow.blogspot.com/2012/07/boundaries.html

Tiffany @ Austin Family Diary said...

Such a great series! Letting go is so hard, but you are right--at times it's necessary to move on and invest in healthier friendships.

Melanie said...

You totally said it spot on!! I only wish that 15 years ago I had that advice to go on..I went thru so much with my 'high school bff' after we got out of school..she just kept treating me worse and worse. I put up with it for WAY longer than I should have. Everyone deserves to be treated right!

Lauren said...

I definitely agree with this post. One of my very best friends & roommates from college (she was actually my maid of honor...something I sort of regret) and I have just grown apart. When we get together things are a little awkward and I've decided that it's really just not worth it to struggle to make it through a 1 hour lunch conversation. Nothing major really happened except for life...we've just grown apart.

© Through Clouded Glass. Design by MangoBlogs.