Anniversary Countdown

I recently found a new blog that I've really been enjoying, The Williams Post.  So many of the posts that Kerri has written lately have been challenging to me.  As I was reading through some of her posts, I came across one of her "marriage letters".  

(Periodically Kerri will write letters to her husband and post them on her blog.  I love this idea, and I'm thinking of implementing something similar on my blog too - I think Derek would love to see a letter for him on here, since he stops by once in a while to see what I've been posting!  So this may be added in the future, keep an eye out.)

Anyway, in the marriage letter post I read, Kerri listed some questions that they discussed recently at one of their groups, and as I read through it I was thinking about what I would say to answer those questions for me and Derek.  And it got me thinking about my marriage.
These are the questions/prompts that she posted:


I'm not going to lie, the last couple months have been tough for me. Derek has been gone almost every week for work, and when he's home he's had to study so much for the classes he's taking (Derek is working toward getting his CPA right now).  I miss him when he's gone, and I'm struggling with not getting to spend as much time together as I'd like to right now.  While there is an end in sight, it'll be another year and a half until things really calm down, and that seems like a very long time.

However, I think I have to take some ownership for the way I'm feeling disconnected.  Sure, I don't get to spend as much time with Derek right now.  But my attitude has not been great.  I haven't been making the best of the time that I do have with Derek.  

In my defense I've also been adjusting to having a new baby the last couple months.  But we're adjusted now.  It's time to focus on my marriage and spend more time thinking of ways to build it, instead of just pining away for a day when Derek won't have to study anymore or won't have to be gone so much.

So I decided to borrow Kerri's list and answer one question a week for the next 12 weeks.  I think this is perfect, because in 12 weeks Derek and I will be celebrating our 5 year anniversary!  I want to record these types of things for my kids to read someday, and I'm thinking that this will be an encouragement to my hubby and also a challenge for me to focus more on how I can work to improve our relationship.

The 12-week countdown begins next week.  Stay tuned!
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Brittney said...

Love!! What a great idea. When's your anniversary? Ours is May 13th - coming up on seven years next month, can't believe how fast the time passes. Bet you feel the same way?:) Happy Anniversary (soon)!

Shae said...

This is a great idea! I can't wait to read your posts. :)

Amanda said...

What a great idea! I know that your kids will love to read this when they get older!

Brittney said...

Oh and if you ever need to talk to someone who understands what it's like to have a travelling spouse, I am here! Pretty much since K and I married our life had been like that and I know firsthand how hard it is, how very much you miss each other. This is the first year things have been different for us. I guess my best advice (not that you asked for it so please feel free to leave it;)) would be to make the time you do have together count. Too often we succumbed to tiredness on the weekends and didn't make the effort to connect in a meaningful way, and when the week came again resentments would start to set in. We also made the mistake of not talking early enough on the weekdays so that we could have thoughtful conversations and not short, simple 'goodnight' ones. And lastly, it helped me so much to remember God had an ultimate plan with it all, our distance was not in vain. One day things will be different, my friend! Hang in there.

Felicia said...

What a cool idea! I can't wait to see your letters to Derek. I might even do this with Chris, because it's so fun!

Kerrie Williams said...

I am SO happy that I happened to see your website in my blog referral stats! Thanks for the shout out :) And your questions look WAYYY cuter than mine! Love it! I think I'll be pinning that. I love your honesty in this post and hope that you DO write letters to him! I know Wade always loves his. God bless you girl!

Unknown said...

This sounds fun!

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