One Area To Improve On

 

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This is a hard question for me, because there are lots of things I could work on.  But I'm going to say that one thing I should work on is realizing that Derek needs some down time.  

I'm kind of a supervisor by nature, so a lot of times when Derek gets home I'll ask for his help with  different things so that we can finish all the work and spend some time relaxing together.  But I have to remember that even when I might be tired from taking care of the kids by myself all day (or all week, if he's been gone), he's been working too, and I should try not to ask him to do too much right away.  

Maybe I need to do more of it myself.  Maybe I need to let some of it slide for the night.  But letting Derek have more time to just do nothing would be a good thing. Then he'd probably be more re-charged and ready to help me anyway!  And I want our home to feel like a haven, not like just another place where he has to work.

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(Our anniversary, 2010, after we played a round of mini golf.  I won.)

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MSDeyle said...

I struggle with this too. On one hand, I really do need then help and it motivates me to keep getting other things done if I'm not working alone, but ont he other hand, he works SO HARD for us and I want him to enjoy being home with us. It's definitely a fine line.

Amberly said...

That's a good thing to work on, I think I could do the same! By the way, I love this idea, I might have to steal it in the future! ;)

Amberly
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Lyndsey said...

I'm guilty of this too. Sometimes I cram a million honey-do projects in on the weekend and I know I tend to burn Will out because of it. I forget that he is actually working hard during the day even if I don't see it! You're not alone!

Brittney said...

I hear ya. I am the same way, worse I think since I've been preggo - I tend to take more advantage of my hubby's time now since I'm frustrated at not being able to do certain things (move heavy items, paint, etc.) But that's a good point you brought up - these men of ours work hard too and deserve a break:)

The Clem Family said...

To too tend to struggle with this. We are both working hard during the day (me with the kids, Justin at work). I too often dump all the troubles from the day on him as soon as he walks into the door. In the moment, I forget that most nights he has to log back on to his work computer or join conference calls, etc after we put the boys to bed. I am really trying to give him time to decompress and have time with the boys that is fun and not all work when he gets home. He works crazy hard to provide for our family and I feel that is one way we can show our appreciation (even if the boys are making me want to pull my hair out that day). Our pastor has been doing a sermon series on the book of Ephesians. A couple of Sundays ago he did chp 5 versus 23-24. In his sermon, he even talked about how important it is for husbands to have this down time. (http://austinridge.org/video-gallery/ephesians/biblical-beauty-of-subm)

Tiffany @ Austin Family Diary said...

This is definitely something I'll have to keep in mind, especially for the future. Thanks for sharing!

Anne @ Sincerely, Britches said...

I remember seeing that with my dad, and also my husband. . . sometimes they just need a little time to decompress before the weight of home-life comes crashing in! Marriage is such a journey of learning the needs of our spouses and striving to be a godly wife! Thanks for sharing!

Melanie said...

I have the same problem Callie so i can totally relate! Definately something to work on! Oh and love the picture too btw!

Allison said...

this is so true! thank you for your honesty-I am going to let my hubs read this one-) trying to keep a balance in marriage/parenthood is hard work but definately worth it!

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