Heart Spillover

When I saw the announcement for this "Speaking Life"  linkup on Whitney's blog (which you should most definitely check out - she's one of my new favorites!), I knew I wanted to participate!  Lately I've been realizing more and more how my words and attitudes matter and can make a huge difference in my relationships, especially in my marriage.

However, I'm having a really hard time narrowing down a topic for this post, because I feel like "Speak Life" encompasses so many different things - things that I want to work on.  Maybe I'll pound out more of my thoughts about this in the next few weeks, but for now the central idea that keeps coming to mind when I think about speaking life is this verse:


I could sit here and write about gossiping, keeping complaining in check, encouraging others, etc.  All those topics are good ones and worth writing about.  But the bottom line is that what I say is a reflection of what is in my heart.  If my heart isn't right, there is no way for me to learn to "speak life" to others.  It isn't going to happen.

Even if I do succeed in using my words to build up in one setting, the ugly overflow of my heart will spill over in some other setting.  I mentioned a couple weeks ago that for me, the ugly spillover usually ends up being in conversations with my husband and mom.  That ultimately it's not healthy for me or for them, and it's definitely not honoring to God.

The problem with this heart spillover is that it's not something I can change by sheer force of will.  Humans cannot change their own hearts.  

If we are going to get better at using our words for good and not for harm, it has to start with heart change.  And heart change has to start with honestly recognizing what is in our hearts, and taking all the ugliness to the Lord.  Asking Him to fix it.  He is the only one who can.

When your heart is in a good place, when you give up any lingering bitterness or jealousy or unforgiveness or selfishness . . .when your true heart's desire is to honor Jesus and show love to others, good things will spill out of it.  And speaking life will be natural.  That's the place I want to be.

(For a free printable of the above verse, click here and save the image to your computer.  For personal use only.)

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Melanie said...

So true!

Caroline @ In Due Time said...

A topic I'm so passionate about! Our words have so much power! Thanks for sharing!

Elisha said...

I love this so much!

Whitney @ Journey Mercies said...

beautifully written - seriously, you are so right, change has to start with the heart. if we just modify our behavior or apply a new "strategy" without addressing our heart, we may be able to make it look good for a while...but eventually, when things get tight, our behavior will fail us, and our hearts will just come out again. thanks for sharing this on the linkup, and for your sweet shout-out :)

Rebecca said...

Yes! This is where I am right now too. It's heart and soul work. I am more mindful of what I am saying and how I am saying it, but ultimately, my insides need so health and healing for this to really take root.

Danielle said...

So glad you joined up with us! This really is the key to this for me as well! God has to change my heart, so my first and deepest need in learning to really speak life is to prayerfully bring my junk to him! Amen girl! Nice to "meet" you!

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