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(This is not a photo from the homeschool conference - just two of my kids on a recent hike.)
Last week my family and I attended our state homeschool conference. Every year I learn something new, find great curriculum deals, discover curriculum that is new to me, and leave encouraged.
I’ve written before about why you should attend a homeschool conference if you get a chance. I think I may do another version of that article someday about why you should attend a Christian homeschool conference, even if you don’thomeschool. If a homeschool conference is a good one, at least half of the sessions would be uplifting to any Christian family, and I love that about our local conference. The focus is on raising our children and discipling them, and then also practical/academic tips - but the meat of it is a biblical philosophy on child-rearing that would benefit any Christian parent.
I received a conference-recap email from one of the many homeschool blogs I follow, and I really enjoyed it and was inspired to share a few takeaways from the conference we attended (including some interesting curriculum finds).
My Main Takeaway
A big theme of our conference this year was passing on the faith to our children. If you are not aware, the statistics on youth leaving the church in Protestant denominations in the United States are very grim. A full 70% of Christian youth leave the church, and these statistics haven’t improved in years - if anything, the situation has worsened. There were a couple different lectures about this topic (from Israel Wayne and George Barna), and though I only attended Wayne’s talk, from what I can tell the bottom line was the same - taking your children to church every week isn’t enough. Sending them to a Christian private school isn’t enough. Even homeschooling isn’t enough!
Kids need to have a good relationship with their parents, and they need to be trained by their parents. No one has as big of an impact on the faith of children as their parents do. Children need to know the tenants of their faith, see it being put into practice by their parents, and receive focused teaching about biblical doctrines (the truths of the faith) and a biblical worldview (how those truths should affect the way they see they world and the way they live).
You obviously can’t pass on that kind of knowledge and faith if you don’t have it yourself! Alot of Christians think we have a biblical worldview, and we don't realize that in many cases, we actually don’t. Wayne shared the PEERS test, which is a biblical worldview test - he said that though he quibbled with the phrasing of a few of the questions, it’s not a difficult test. The statistics among different groups of students who have taken this test are very interesting (and scary, honestly).
(This is a graph from the Nehemiah Institute website, the organization that produced the PEERS test. That blue line represents a TINY number of Christian private schools that have a high focus on biblical worldview training, as opposed to those that focus on academics - only about 2% of Christian kids are in those types of schools. The green line represents homeschoolers, who only started being included later. Honestly, I think we homeschoolers could do better. The traditional Christian private schools and public school lines should be sobering. Keep in mind that all of these lines represent ONLY youth from Christian households.)
The benefit of homeschooling as it relates to all this can be summed up in one word - time. Parents have the biggest influence on their kids, but that influence can be diluted by a lack of time spent with our kids. Homeschool parents have an advantage because we are not lacking for time - we are with our children nearly all day, every day!
Homeschool children (should) have an up-close look at what a Christian life should look like, because they see it playing out in every situation we encounter daily. Scripture tells us that “everyone who is fully trained will be like his teacher” (Luke 6:40). That’s a little sobering, isn’t it? It means as homeschool parents we need to be careful that we ourselves are living out a truly biblical worldview. Our strengths in this area will likely be passed on to our kids, but also our weaknesses.
Time is also a crucial ingredient for building any strong relationship, including with our children, and having strong relationships with both parents provides a distinct statistical advantage in passing on the faith to our children.
(This chart is from the Gen2 survey, which is a general survey of churched Millennials and the impact of their upbringing on their practicing of the Christian faith as an adult. You can look at all the findings from that survey here. They are up-front about the fact that more people who were previously homeschooled took the survey than those schooled in other ways, despite trying to specifically advertise to those who went to public or private school. Despite the sample being a little uneven, it’s still pretty interesting.)
Homeschoolers, we have alot of things working for us! The trick is not to squander all these advantages, which can certainly happen. This whole discussion was simultaneously heartening and challenging to me.
For Further Reading
Though the website is a little old-school, I recommend exploring the Nehemiah Institute - they are the organization that produced the PEERS worldview test, and they have alot of interesting documents and resources.
For more information specifically on the exit of youth from the church and what we might do about it, I highly recommend the books Already Compromised and Already Gone by Ken Ham.
Israel Wayne has a couple helpful books about parenting and education that I’d recommend: Raising Them Up and Education: Does God Have An Opinions? (don’t be put off by the title, it’s a great book - I even had my oldest read the chapter on math, and it greatly improved his attitude!). He also has a systematic theology and biblical worldview curriculum for middle and high school that we picked up for our 8th grader this year.
George Barna also has a new book related to this topic, and I haven’t read it yet, but I might pick it up: Raising Spiritual Champions.
Other Interesting Sessions
“Why Americans Can’t Read” - Alex Newman - It’s shocking how illiterate we have become in America - half of American adults are functionally illiterate, and those statistics are coming from the Department of Education itself. I couldn’t find an article from Newman related to this topic that wasn’t behind a paywall, but the answer to this problem comes down to one thing - we need to ditch the “whole word” method and go back to actually teaching phonics.
“The Problem With School Choice” - Alex Newman - There are alot of unintended consequences with allowing the government to fund ALL school choices via vouchers and other forms of funding, which is a big push in many states right now. You can read this document if you are interested, which includes alot of the information Newman shared in this talk.
“Help! The Highschool Years Are Coming!” - Jan and Roger Smith - This session included so much encouragement for the high school years! I couldn’t find any articles about this specific topic online, but you can hear from the speakers on Zan Tyler’s podcast.
“Is Homeschooling Just For Women? - Israel Wayne - My husband went to this session and came back inspired and challenged in his role as a Christian (and homeschool) dad! I’d personally recommend anything by Israel Wayne, I’ve been encouraged by his resources many times. You can check out his ministry here.
Interesting Curriculum
Homeschool In A Box - I didn’t get to explore this booth much, but this company is on my list to research - their booth had a bunch of themed, hands-on learning boxes that I think my kids would find so fun!
Homestead Science - This is a family-run homeschool company from Idaho, and I am particularly interested in their survival study, which seems right up our alley.
Math Without Borders - We spent a good amount of time talking with the man who owns this company about this high school math option - it’s on my list to research for next year! But I wanted to point out “The Grandpa Project” on his website, which includes a bunch of videos he put together for his elementary and middle-school grandchildren to learn more about math - and this page in particular is the best math facts flashcard system I’ve ever seen online. All this is free on the website, and we’ll definitely be using it this summer! He also has a “bonus topics” page with a bunch of fun math videos that we’re going to explore.
New Generations Resources - Generations is a curriculum company we’ve been exploring for history mainly, but my little girls have also been enjoying their science books - they have this new science curriculum coming out for 3rd grade about the human body that I’m considering getting! They also released this adorable catechism book for the littlest learners - I really love that all the answers to these catechism questions are an actual Bible verse.
There are so many other interesting tidbits I could share, but I’ll leave it there! I would love to hear if you’re ever been to a homeschool conference, how it was helpful for you, or your thoughts about any of the topics or resources I shared here! Comment below, or hit reply if you are receiving this in your inbox.
Our homeschool year ended so differently than it began, it's a little difficult to begin this post.
Last fall, I knew this would be one of our hardest homeschool years yet, and so I went into it in tackle mode. We struggled, we cried, we ended each day exhausted, but by the end of the first semester, we were enough ahead that we were able to take it easier in the spring. Because of that, I feel pretty optimistic as we closed the books in May, and it's hard to remember back to where we started. But taking some time to reflect and learn from our successes and failures is a good thing, so I'm looking through my old papers as I think the year through.
I already shared things that ended up working well for us this past year, and so this post will be focused more on lessons learned, and things that didn't end up working for us.
First off, to get you into my frame of mind last fall, I spent the entire summer last year worrying about some areas of weakness in our homeschool. There were several skills I wanted to be stronger, several additional subjects I wanted to cram into our school year, not to mention the fact that my oldest was solidly in Junior High, and I wanted to start helping him develop specific study skills. Oh yes, and my youngest would be starting kindergarten.
It was alot to tackle all at once, and I approached the coming school year with a sense of dread, if I'm going to be honest. But I "tightened my belt", as Bilbo Baggins would do, and jumped into the school year with fervor.
Lesson #1 - It is (mostly) a mistake to overload the curriculum.
In my planning frenzy last year, I decided we would try to make it through five (five!) history curriculum books for my older kids, each of which were each meant to last an entire year. I justified this because a couple of the books were a little lower-level, and I figured we would just read through them on the side instead of doing the assignments. I'm still not sure why I decided to do this - remember, I was extremely anxious last summer, and not quite in my right mind.
What ended up actually happening is that we got through three of the planned-for books, which in retrospect feels like quite an accomplishment, even though we fell short of the five (five!) I had planned. What we did get through was actually quite lovely, and my oldest has surprised me by quoting something from our Greek and Roman studies (example:"'Tis the crumpled rose leaf!"). So I say it is only mostly a mistake to overload the curriculum, because if I hadn't overloaded, we certainly wouldn't have learned so much this year. But it is a mistake in that it can make everyone's lives a little miserable if you tip over into "too much". More may be doable than you might think, but certainly not five different history curricula (five!).
History Curricula We Accomplished:
- America's Story 1 - 2nd, 4th
- America's Story 3 - 5th
- World's Story 1 - 7th
- The Story Of The Romans by Miller
- The Story Of The Greeks by Miller
Lesson #2 - Know how much each child can handle.
When I was doing my homeschool planning last summer, it struck me that my oldest would be in junior high, and that I wanted him to develop some of his own school planning skills over the course of the school year. So I typed up an actual school syllabus for him with some planning guidance, and I bought my 7th grader an academic planner so he could plan out how he wanted to accomplish his school work.
I don't think this was a bad plan in theory, and he did end up using that planner. However, because of the aforementioned overloading, his work load got a little messy, and I eventually went back to typing up checklists for him each week. The checklists ended up being the basis for his planning rather than the academic planner, but I was still happy to see him developing initiative and taking charge of his schedule by moving things around when it worked better for him.
However, as I moved back to my checklist system, I started to see just how much I was asking each child to do each day. Some of my children were not daunted at all and shot through a 9-10 item daily checklist. But for some of my kids, when they had a long checklist handed to them each morning, would freeze up and feel like they could never get through it...so why even try?
As I noticed our multiple history books and up to four different language arts tasks, I realized I needed to organize differently to keep our days more doable for my easily-overwhelmed kids. I ended up alternating some language arts subjects, rotated history books, and dropped some not-as-important things all together.
The sweet spot seemed to be about 5-6 school subjects per day, and once I made the checklists look more easy to accomplish, our school days ran much more smoothly with less complaints. This also built their confidence - once they started feeling like they could accomplish their checklists in a reasonable amount of time, I could add in another study here or there.
Realizing my kids' mental stress tolerance when confronted with a checklist helped me make adjustments so they could be successful. We still accomplished quite alot, but recognizing their limits made a big difference in everyone's attitude.
Lesson #3 - Sometimes the answer is to do more.
A big message to homeschool moms when encountering an area of struggle is that homeschooling is so great because you can give your child individualized attention, you can make adjustments for them so they can still be learning while developing skills, etc. "Don't worry, it will come!" they say.
Pretty sure that I've said that before, and it's been true! But another thing that is not as often mentioned, but that I've also found to be true, is that if your child is really struggling in an area, sometimes you might just have to buckle down and do more of that thing than you ever thought you could handle, especially when it comes to skill-based subjects.
This may seem to contradict what I said in my last point, but it's all a balance, isn't it? If I have a kid struggling with handwriting, I can take oral narrations so as not to make them hate learning history because of the writing required...but also, we probably need to increase the time spent on copywork. Struggling reader? I will read books to them that are above their reading level, but I should also require them to read more books at their reading level out loud. Spelling terrible, slow at solving math problems? Rote memorization of spelling lists and multiplication tables it is.
Learning isn't always gentle and natural, and it doesn't always feel beautiful. Sometimes it's just plain hard. But isn't it a gift for our children to learn that they can approach something that feels impossible, and through gritted teeth they can overcome it? That it can even, someday, become something that is easy for them? That kind of lesson may require forcing a child to do a school task they don't want to do, and tears and attitudes may be involved, and sometimes you can make adjustments - but all that doesn't necessarily mean we should ease up on the actual task at all. Sometimes a break is helpful, sometimes leaning into the struggle even more is what’s needed. It takes a lot of wisdom to know which way to go.
Lesson #4 - Homeschools must be bathed in prayer.
I realized anew this year that homeschooling five kids is actually really hard work, and it's going to be really hard work for a long time. I'm basically working full-time job hours, or more, and I'm going to go to bed exhausted many nights, and I might cry sometimes, and that's all pretty much normal.
In addition, no matter how well I plan, or how great my curriculum choices, or how many methods I try, my children are going to have areas of struggle and weaknesses that the curriculum may or may not cover. It's my job to help them through it, even when I have no idea how.
And after struggling to my wit's end, then I'll remember the folly of my whole approach. Because of course, I remember, I can't do this without leaning on the Lord.
I don't have enough wisdom, or stamina, or kindness and gentleness and patience, to homeschool well on my own. I need to constantly set my mind on God's Word, pray for His guidance and help, and pray for His wisdom as I make homeschool decisions for my kids.
Everyone says this sort of thing so much that it starts to feel trite, but it shouldn't. I want my children to learn who Jesus is, learn to love Him, more than I want them to learn to be proficient at math (though I want that too). If the Lord doesn't build the house, the laborers work in vain. If the Lord doesn't illuminate the heart of a child, the homeschool mom teaches in vain.
Leaning on the Lord in prayer as I educate my children must be the central thing, the first-thing to be done, and I've seen the necessity of this as we wrap up a very difficult year in a better place than I anticipated. This attitude of reliance on Him is something I want to cultivate more in myself as a homeschool mom in the years to come.
Until the first week of May we were unsure whether or where we would be going on vacation, but at the last possible minute we made a decision. So amid the whirlwind of finishing our school year and planning a homeschool graduation ceremony for our church's homeschool group, we somehow managed to plan, clean the house, shop, and pack up for vacation.
We decided to go to Arizona this year - it's been 7 or 8 years since we visited, and the kids don't even remember going to the Grand Canyon. I'm just going to do a fly-over view of the highlights of our trip!
The Grand Canyon
We made a "quick stop" at the Grand Canyon before making it to our actual destination of Phoenix. It was really neat for the kids to see the canyon when they will actually remember it at these ages! On the way we listened to a few talks from Answers In Genesis about some of the current creationist research and theories surrounding the Grand Canyon, and it made this visit even more interesting for us.
Confession: I always feel a little underwhelmed looking down at the Grand Canyon, at first. But I think it’s only because it is just impossible to understand the scale of it. We did spot a helicopter in the canyon this time, and it looked smaller than a gnat. It’s just hard to understand how deep it really is. I’d love to go to the bottom someday. Looking up from the bottom might help my brain understand better.
We were also a little amazed to see lots of people leaving the trails and walking on rock outcrops, with a drop of hundreds of feet right behind them, as they stood on a mere four square feet of flat ground! And it was windy. I couldn’t point it out to them without being rude, but people die at the Grand Canyon every year by falling in. If you visit, just…don’t be stupid. There are lots of perfectly safe places to get good pictures at the top, climbing around on slippery rocks is really not necessary.
Saguaro National Park
We decided our main destination would be Phoenix because it's relatively close to Saguaro National Park. We basically planned this whole trip around going to Saguaro, and it was such a pretty place!
Saguaro National Park was really beautiful, the classic desert landscape. The desert can feel so dry and empty, but Saguaro is full of interesting plant life (and I'm sure animal life too). We got there early in the morning, when we could hear birds chirping among the cacti, it was so quiet. I wish I could explain to you the scent of desert air in May, it’s like no other scent I know, floral and woody and dry.
I took so many pictures, but I felt like I couldn’t capture the sheer amount of saguaros in this one little section of the park! They were everywhere, and some were so tall. Saguaros grow about an inch every year - they don’t even start to grow arms until they are 50-80 years old. The tall saguaro I’m standing beside in the photo below is probably around 150 years old.
One thing we didn’t know before we went - there are actually two separate sites for this park that aren’t connected. We were very confused when our map apps were leading us two different places, until we figured it out. The west site has three times more saguaros than the east site, but some on the eastern site grow fatter!
Joshua Tree
We decided to take a one-day trip to California to see Joshua Tree while we were so far south, since it's only about 3 1/2 hours from Phoenix. This was my first time ever visiting California! The gas was expensive, and it was hot in the desert, and there were wind and solar farms all over the place, but other than that it didn't feel as foreign as I expected (what can I say, California has a reputation).
Joshua Tree National Park was a very unique place to visit! Joshua Trees are actually not a tree at all, they are a yucca-type plant. They grow very slowly, similar to the saguaro cactus, and we even saw a few of them still flowering. We entered the park from the east and drove through to the west entrance, and I quite liked going in that order…we went from the Colorado desert to the Mojave desert, and from mostly cacti (including a “teddy bear cactus”) to Joshua trees everywhere! Some of them were so tall, and some areas so thick, that they looked like pine trees from a distance. It felt a little bit like a Dr. Seuss landscape.
One thing we wondered about as we saw a few dead “trees” was what the inside of the trunks looked like…the ranger at the west entrance answered that question. Apparently the trunks are good for almost nothing - the insides are spongey, and when they are dried out they’re still very fibrous, and they can’t be burned. Just interesting to look at, I guess!
Palm Springs
On the way back from Joshua Tree we looped around and visited Palm Springs - I am so glad we drove through there, because it was a very interesting town. As you drive, the surrounding desert is so dry, and the air so dusty - but suddenly you see snow-capped mountains in the distance, and before you know it you are tucked away next the the hills, driving through palm-tree lined streets. I don't think I've ever seen surroundings change from desert, to mountainous, to almost tropical so fast!
Palm Springs is a natural desert oasis, and it's surrounded by parts of the Aqua Caliente reservation - we decided to take a little hike into Andreas Canyon, which is on the reservation.
I am not exaggerating when I say that Andreas Canyon was probably one of the coolest places I've ever been. This is a natural fan-palm oasis, and feels more like you're in Hawaii than in the middle of the Mojave desert. The palms are so tall, it's surrounded by tall rock walls, the water is bubbling and crystal-clear, and the air is sweet-smelling and refreshing. It was just gorgeous! We hiked on the trail, took a bunch of pictures, waded in the water, and enjoyed the unique atmosphere of this place!
Apparently there can be rattlesnakes near the oasis, but we didn't see any - October to May is supposed to be the best time to go to avoid snakes. We stayed about an hour, but I could have spent much longer there. If we are ever in the area again, I would definitely go back - it's worth the entrance fee (about $60 for our family of 7), even for an hour.
Phoenix
We spent some time just relaxing on this trip as well, which was much needed. We spent an entire day at our hotel's water park, we went on an evening desert walk, and walked to a European pastry place for breakfast. Having a little down-time between visiting national parks on this trip was so nice.
Petrified Forest National Park
On the way out of Arizona we detoured to check out Petrified Forest National Park. This park used to be a national monument, and got upgraded to a park in 1962. It's a very overlooked park, but I'm glad we stopped there - it was so interesting! There wasn't any single big sight to see, but as you drove through the park there was petrified wood just everywhere. We have some petrified wood areas in my state, but the sheer amount of petrified wood here was pretty amazing. I probably wouldn't go out of my way to go there again, but it's worth a stop if you are driving through, and it's one more National Park that we can cross off our list!
I've been to Arizona four times in my life, and I think this was my favorite trip there. We were able to see so much, we went in May when it wasn't ridiculously hot yet, and we worked in some relaxation days, which is the key to a good trip in my book. It was a much-needed and inexpensive vacation for our family this year, and proof that you don't have to spend alot of money or go too far to have a worthwhile vacation - there are so many interesting places in the U. S. that are worth seeing!
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