"We make men without chests, and expect of them virtue and enterprise. We laugh at honor and are shocked to find traitors in our midst. We castrate and bid the geldings be fruitful."
-C. S. Lewis, The Abolition Of Man
Last night I started reading C. S. Lewis's book The Abolition Of Man, and I read this phrase "men without chests". Now, I've heard that phrase used many times, but now that I've actually read the chapter, Lewis meant something slightly different than I always thought, having not read the book before.
If I were to summarize the argument, it would be that there is an intrinsic quality in certain things - things in nature, things in literature, things in life itself - that requires a certain response from humans, and that quality is not given to the thing by our feelings, but is inherent within it. Mountains don't make us feel majestic, they are majestic. Babies don't make us feel precious feelings, they are themselves precious. A noble act isn't noble because it makes us feel noble feelings, it is inherently noble in a mysterious way. It is proper and right that we feel those things, but our feelings are not what give those things their admirable qualities - our feelings are just the correct response to them.
If a man walked by a gorgeous mountain view and had no ability to recognize the awe-inspiring quality of it in his own feelings - something would be a little wrong with that man. As Lewis says, his head and belly aren't connecting. He has no chest.
A man without a chest is a man who does not or cannot feel about certain things the way he ought. He can't recognize the good and true, the beautiful things in this world for what they are. His values are askew and his right feelings taught out of him. I would say that he can't see things the way God intended and created him to see them, because I believe God himself intended us to see glimpses of His character in the deeper feelings that certain things should inspire, and our God-given conscience is what tells us when we are not feeling about things as we should.
"Until quite modern times all teachers and even all men believed the universe to be such that certain emotional reactions on our part could be either congruous or incongruous to it - believed, in fact, that objects did not merely receive, but could merit our approval or disapproval, our reverence, or our contempt." -Lewis
And that "taught out of him" part was particularly interesting to me. Lewis gave the example of an elementary textbook in which a story is told about two visitors viewing a beautiful waterfall. One declares that it is pretty, and one says "That is sublime"! The authors point out to the student that the waterfall itself isn't sublime, it is just giving the man sublime feelings. You can see the whiff of postmodernism and relativism here, can't you? Lewis spend the rest of the chapter arguing that no, the value of the waterfall does not lie in the man's feelings - there is something intrinsically sublime in the waterfall that rightly produced those feelings in the man, and by not teaching the child that fact, the textbook writers were training him that there is no deeper meaning in anything than our subjective feelings.
That whole example was frightening in that it is so easy to subtly undermine a person's better inclinations through their education. A person who is well-educated in the fullest sense is someone who has been taught how to feel about things as he ought to feel. A well-educated person likes certain things because he recognizes they are things worthy of being liked, because he has been taught from a young age what is beautiful and what is ugly, what is noble and what is base, what is true and what is false. People don't come to these proper views of things by their own feelings - they come to it by being carefully trained in the better things from a young age.
The implications for parents and educators, and especially those parents who take on the whole education of their children themselves, is obvious. We must show them the beautiful things, and help them absorb them into their soul. We must teach them what is right and noble, through all the means we can find, especially through the word of God, so that they can recognize the wrong and cowardly and sinful for what it is. We must give them true things to aspire to, to innoculate them against what is false. We must train them in righteousness through the word of God, so that they are thoroughly equipped for every good work (2 Tim. 3:16-17). If that is not part of our homeschool or educational plan as parents, we are in danger of producing people without chests and crippling our children against fully living life as they could.
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Obviously C. S. Lewis says it better than me and this is his concept, so if you are interested in this idea at all, I highly recommend picking up a copy of The Abolition Of Man - even just the first chapter is worth it. I am going to be reading through The Abolition Of Man this month, and may have more posts coming about what I learn if you'd like to join me! I also saw that there is going to be a webinar from one of my favorite homeschool bloggers discussing it that I am considering purchasing as well!

Welcome to my new Tuesday series for the month of October! I'm looking forward to doing a non-formal chat on my blog each Tuesday, kind of like a virtual letter written to a friend while sipping a lovely cup of tea. I hope that is how it feels to read these posts each week, anyway. Those kind of posts are my personal favorites to read, and I think many of you would say the same. There is something interesting about getting a glimpse into someone else's life, isn't there?
Drinking: A homemade pump[kin spice latte, made by my (affectionately-dubbed) coffee snob of a husband. I know, it's not tea. Next week I'll play fair.
This is the first week that we are back into a normal rhythm after taking a trip out to North Carolina in September. It was a long drive across a large portion of the country, with five kids and homeschool books in tow.
If you are thinking that sounds like chaos, it actually wasn't very much. My kids are good at riding in the car since we typically have a longer drive to get anywhere, living where we live. Our school subjects actually provided some structure to the drive time and made it go faster for all of us. And I think there is actually something really special about the experience of driving through the country, instead of flying over it. You get to be immersed in different climates, the slight cultural peculiarities that each state has. Derek and I have a fun time talking about whether the state we're driving through would be a good "back-up state" in case we have to leave ours for whatever reason someday. Some states feel like home, and some feel so foreign I can't imagine living there myself. And, of course, there is the benefit of being able to envision the setting of books after you've been there yourself!
On the way out we stopped to visit our dear friends that had to move out of state for reasons out of their control. They have a beautiful piece of wooded property now in Kentucky, and are in the process of building a new house! We were able to celebrate a birthday party of my friend's son, held in their brand-new garage since the house is not yet built, and it was so special to be there for that. It was bittersweet to visit, because I so wish they could still live close to us - but not having them nearby makes me treasure the times when we can all be together even more, and I am already mentally planning loads of future visits as the years go by! I was listening to a seminar recently about Christian friendship, and it was a reminder that good, God-honoring friendships are a relatively rare thing, I don't take it for granted.

I will probably work on a post this month with a list of all the interesting places we were able to visit in North Carolina, so I won't go too far into it here, but seeing Derek's family for an extended period of time was lovely. His brother works as a mechanical and tech professor at a nearby college, and we were able to take a tour of the facilities and see a 3d printer, a machine shop, a robotics lab, etc. The boys were very interested, especially Clyde! My sister-in-law is an accomplished potter, and the kids had a great time working on pottery with her and making their own cups and other items. We spent several evenings just watching TV together, and drinking especially good coffee while we chatted, and it was a wonderful time. They are excellent at opening their home to guests, and their hospitality is a good example to me.
On the last day of our drive home, one of the kids came down with a stomach bug. At the time we thought it was food poisoning, but then multiple kids threw up a day or two later, and even I had one day where I just felt terrible. Thankfully it seemed to be a 24-hour bug, because none of us was sick beyond one day.
This is the second time we have come down with something after a trip out east, and I wonder if it's our immune systems reacting negatively to the heavy, humid air? In our higher altitude, the air is very dry, and I always notice various odd effects when we visit lower altitudes and more humid climates. A couple of the kids got rashes on their faces, we got several weird reactions to bug bites (likely from different bugs than we have at home), and then of course the typical sickness a day after we arrive back home. I know this also happens in reverse when people come from the east to our western high altitudes - I heard a couple stories before and during our trip of people visiting my state and being ill because of the change of climate and altitude. It starts to make sense of the missionary accounts I've read from the 19th century where the British were always worried about not doing well in foreign climates. It's amazing how our bodies adapt to living in one kind of place after a while, isn't it?
The rest of last week was taken up with running errands, and celebrating my daughter's 7th birthday. I can't believe how fast time goes by! Those of you who have been around for a while probably remember that I would write birthday letters to each of my kids on the blog every year. A couple years ago I decided to move those birthday letters to a private family blog, just to protect my kids' privacy a little more, but I wanted to mention that I still do write them. I hope to one day collect them into a binder and present it to my children when they are grown.
I discovered a notebook in my baby book a few years ago with letters that my mom wrote to me when I was a child, and reading it made me want to cry. If you don't already write letters to your children to give to them later, I recommend it. I think it will be a really special thing for them someday.
I'll close this now, and be back with another "Tea On A Tuesday" post next week! If you want to write your own chatty, letter-style post, what's stopping you? This is your cue to go ahead and do it. Comment below and I'll go read your "Tea On A Tuesday" style post too!

After a bit of hesitancy, I decided to challenge myself to do another writing challenge in October. Typically the Write 31 Days challenge is just that - a challenge to write every day in the month of October. If you are paying attention, you are probably scratching your head, because didn't I already miss October 1st and 2nd?
Yes, I did, thank you for noticing.
I've done the official Write 31 Days challenge for the past several years, and 2021 was the first year I was actually successful in posting to my blog every single day. That felt like a huge accomplishment!
In the years leading up to 2021, I felt I had to keep trying until I had completed a successful challenge - and now that I've done it, I feel the pull to participate in an October challenge just for the fun of it. I find that putting that little bit of pressure on myself to post every day gets me back in the practice of writing after the usually slack summer months. It sparks alot of creativity for me with photography as well as writing, and when I devote a little more time to those two things, it's life-giving in it's own way.
That's the bottom line. Getting back into writing and noticing my surroundings for photos, for the purpose of these October challenges, gives me joy. That's a good enough reason to participate, even if I've already got a "failing" start to the month.
Since I did miss the first days of the month, I'm thinking of modifying my personal version of the challenge to posting every weekday in October, and taking the weekends off. Here is my tentative topic outline:
Mondays: A homemaking topic (excepting today).
Tuesday: Tea On A Tuesday - A chatty post written over a cup of tea. Feel free to steal that title and join me on Tuesdays.
Wednesday: A catch-all day (Wednesday Fives, random topic posts).
Thursday: Homeschool topics.
Friday: Another freebie day, possibly a Five-Minute Friday post as a challenge.
Saturday/Sunday: If I post on the weekends, it will probably be quick links of interesting or challenging videos/posts/podcasts.
If there is anything specifically that you are interested in reading about, please let me know! Post ideas are always welcome. And if you decide to challenge yourself to write in October, even if you're starting an imperfect challenge like me, let me know so I can keep up with your posts too!





Since I've already shared most of our curriculum choices for the 2022-2023 homeschool year (except Bible curriculum, that post may be coming), I thought I would share three smaller changes I am making to our homeschooling this year.
Latin
At the end of last year, I decided to start my oldest on Latin lessons. Foreign language is one of those subject areas that scares me. Even though I took a little Spanish in high school, I remember almost nothing, except "Gracious" and "Por favor", and the only time I use those words is incorrectly in order to make my husband laugh. I read somewhere once that people whose brains have the talent for thinking in code excel at music and languages - I guess I'm not one of those people, since neither of those subjects is my forte.
It is yet to be seen if any of the kids picked up the code-thinking gene from their dad, or if they are stuck with inheriting my brain, but I decided Latin was something we would try. I think whether they go on to excel at foreign language studies or not, Latin is one of those things that will give them a good foundation for understanding many languages better, including our own!
After doing a bunch of research on Cathy Duffy's website, I decided to go with The Great Latin Adventure. The website is pretty old-looking, but don't let that fool you! This is an interesting program that comes in a PDF format, put together by a Latin teacher for use in either a school setting or in homeschools. There are no bells and whistles, no colorful flashcards or CD's. It's just bare-bones Latin instruction, where the student makes their own flashcards, does two translation worksheets a week, studies their notes, and listens to Latin pronunciation mp3 files.
What I love about this curriculum is the extensive teacher guide that goes into detail about how to teach each aspect of Latin to the student - sometimes it goes into too much detail, but it also gives me confidence that the course is thorough! It also helps that it was very affordable. I'd say the first level seems appropriate for 5th or 6th grade, though some younger kids might also be able to understand it!
Scheduling In Notebooks
The other big change I am making this year so far is using Sarah Mackenzie's spiral notebook method for planning and scheduling our homeschool week.
Planning the year all at once, or even a semester at a time, doesn't work well for me. If I plan too far out, we will inevitably get behind the pre-printed schedule, and then the schedule will feel useless and I won't look at it at all. Then books or subjects I wanted to get to will inevitably fall through the cracks.
This year, instead of planning the whole homeschool year out, I gathered my curriculum, and sat down with a weekly calendar planning page, and laid out all the subjects each kid would have to get through in an ideal week (I made a separate calendar for each child). Then I printed that sample week and pasted them into the back of plain notebooks, one for each kid.
Each week I will consult the ideal week sample schedule in the back of the notebooks, and then write a to-do list for each day of the week in each child's notebook. The kids just have to check everything off the list, and they will be done for school for that day.
Benefits of this:
-It encourages my kids to be independent, while letting me keep track of what they should be doing and what they already did.
-It helps keep me on task throughout the day, and reminds me of the things I wanted to accomplish each week so nothing falls through the cracks.
-Planning once a week (with the pre-set guides) helps me set short-term goals within a reasonable framework, and we end up getting more done.
We've been using the notebooks for a few weeks now, and it's been going wonderfully! I wish I had started keeping a homeschool to-do notebook years ago. I may write a more detailed post, with pictures and trouble-shooting in the future, so if you have any questions or comments about this system, let me know!
Working At The Kitchen Table
The last change I am making is insisting that all the kids need to do their bookwork at the kitchen table.
Some of my fondest homeschool memories were of doing my schoolwork in unusual places - the couch, the spot of sun on the living room floor, the porch, the hot tub. Because of that, up to this point I have let my kids work on their schoolwork anywhere that they like.
However, last year it become obvious that they are still just a little too young and distraction-prone to be allowed to work anywhere. They need to be where I can see them, and where I am easily accessible to help them if they get stuck.
With four kids doing serious schoolwork this year, I need to be able to help multiple kids with their work at once if I don't want the day to drag on. Ideally I'd love to work with them back-to-back on their individual lessons, giving my full attention to each child in sequence, but it's really not practical with a bigger family, and it's also not necessary. Even though it's a little exhausting for me to be on my feet all morning, circling the table to explain concepts and answer questions, it actually is manageable, not confusing (as I was afraid it would be), and much more efficient.
I'm sure the "stay at the table" rule will change in the future as my kids grow more independent, but at these ages, when they do need me to explain the lessons to them, it is so helpful to have them all in the same place, getting their work done at the same time - instead of scattered throughout the house and possibly getting distracted by toys or games!

That's all for now, though I am sure I will be making adjustments throughout the year, as always! Are you making any big changes to your homeschool this year?

Feeling...Really good about how our start to the homeschool year is going. I started using Sarah MacKenzie's notebook scheduling method, and it has honestly changed everything! We are getting SO MUCH done, way more than in years past, and it's been pretty easy to keep on top of, even three weeks into the school year. It's helping me keep the kids' work organized and not forget about things I wanted to do, and I am loving it.
Organizing...lots of clothes, and not because I'm switching to fall clothes - not yet. No, I have been sorting through everyone's drawers and packing things for a vacation to North Carolina! I wasn't sure if we would be able to take an official vacation this year (New Mexico was a long weekend trip), but we finally got everything finalized! We are going to be driving with five kids across the country, WHILE trying to homeschool in the car. Wish us luck. (I'm sounding nervous, but actually I have a pretty organized plan for carschooling, which I will share on the blog soon!)
Baking...a key lime pie, because my parents are coming over for dinner tonight. I tell you, I'm really getting into baking pies. Pies feel so domestic and homey, and they're surprisingly quick to throw together once you get a recipe down. I love it when the kids come up to the counter, peer over the edge of the dish, and then run off yelling "Mom is making a pie!" Do I want my kids to have memories of their mom making pies? Absolutely, yes.
Reading...I have really been loving the No. 1 Ladies' Detective Agency series lately. The characters are so lovable, and the mysteries are not terrible at all. It's a cozy mystery series, but with a fun twist of being set in Botswana. I've also been listening to Skeletons On The Zahara, also set in Africa, but the complete opposite of the No. 1 Ladies Detective Agency in every way.
Watching...Derek and have been re-watching the documentary from the History Channel about Ulysses S. Grant. I love it just as much the second time around. It's so well-done, and it makes me reflect on how the Lord really does choose the times and places where we live (Acts 17:26) for a purpose. I don't know if Grant was a believer, but from the documentary, I know that he was mediocre at pretty much everything, barely scraping by for most of his life to support his family, and had very little gifting or talent - except in the exact qualities and skills he needed to be an amazing general and win us the Civil War. I have no doubt God placed Grant exactly where he was in history just for that purpose, and gave him the exact talents that he needed to help the country get past that dark time.
Worried...that we are going to miss the fall leaves on our trip. Usually, I was thinking we would be back in time for the peak week of leaf season, but things seem to be changing a little early this year. All the trees and bushes started getting a yellow hue a couple weeks ago, and there are some bright gold leaves popping up on the ends of scattered tree branches. Here's to hoping that the fall colors will hold off until we get back! I told Derek that we are never going on vacation in Autumn again. I get too stressed about the leaf situation.
Loving...that I think my sense of smell is mostly back. I can't remember if I've mentioned it on the blog, but my smell has been wacky since last November, which is when I'm pretty sure I actually got Covid. I really have very little trust in those tests, because we supposedly had it in September 2021, but I'm almost certain now that wasn't correct.
Anyway, I couldn't smell anything immediately after our November illness, and after a couple weeks of being very stressed about it, I started doing smell-training - which is basically choosing a scent that you know very well, and sniffing it very hard while concentrating on smelling for 20 seconds, and doing that daily until something starts to happen. I got quite a few smells back that way. (What were the first smells I worked on? Coffee, and books.)
However, for a long time, I had to be really concentrating to smell things - I couldn't just walk into a room and tell if it smelled good, I had to focus on smelling and then I sometimes could. I then had a brief period in the summer where lots of perfumes smelled completely terrible.
That weird experience lasted a couple weeks, and has mostly gone away. I can smell pretty much anything now! Sometimes without even trying! I did have to sniff-train myself to smell this scent from Bath and Body Works the other day, but it only took me a few hours to be able to smell it.
Enjoying...fall soaps. Speaking of Bath and Body Works!
Planning...on ways that I can preserve the herbs in my little herb garden before we leave on vacation. It just occurred to me that if I don't do something with them now, I'll probably return from our trip to a garden of dead herbs. I'm planning on freezing the mint leaves in ice cubes, freezing the rosemary sprigs, drying and crunching up the basil into basil flakes, hang-drying the lavender, and making mint and lavender syrups. Should be a busy couple days of work! Next year I'm going to harvest and preserve all through the summer and build up a little herb cabinet, instead of waiting until fall. I'm by no means a gardener, Derek keeps my herbs alive, but each year I get better at figuring out how to make good use of them.

A Quote
"In Christian circles there is constant talk about free salvation. It is free, thank God. But it is only free to us. God paid a great price for it. Jesus paid with His blood. It is free to us because someone else paid a great deal.
And this is why we do not work out our salvation by never doing anything that might be hard or difficult to us. We imitate Christ, and we make sacrifices for others. We do things that are hard, that cost us much, because we want our gifts to be free to others.
So imitate Christ in your giving. Do it daily, do it in as many little ways as you possibly can. Find a way to imitate Him in the folding of the laundry, in the stocking of the fridge, in the picking up of other peoples' socks. And then decide consciously that you're giving this meal, this clean room, this cheerful Christmas - that you are giving it all freely.
And much later, maybe thirty years later, you would like to see your children turn a profuit on it. You would like to see your kids taking what they were freely given and turning it into still more free giving. This is because God's story is never little. He works in generations, in lifetimes, and He wants us to do the same."
-Rachel Jankovic, Fit To Burst
I loved this quote when I read it in the context of giving freely to my children and being generous to them in various ways as we start school this fall. It was such an encouragement to me!
A Book
I've been reading a bunch of books at once, as per usual, but I just started Skeletons On The Zahara by Dean King, which is about this harrowing survival story of two men in the 1800's who were kidnapped, made slaves, and forced to travel across the desert. I also read Land Of Hope by Wilfred M McClay this morning, because I bought it a while back because I wanted to re-study American history, and then forgot about it until now.
A Bit Of Nature

The last of the summer columbines.
A Recommendation
I recently dug a Lemoncello La Croix out of the back of my pantry, and now I have declared that no one else in my household can drink them. The four remaining cans are MINE. It's a lemon-y vanilla flavor, and for some reason it really hit the spot.
A Moment Of Happiness
I took my four year old grocery shopping this past week, and she wanted to ride in the basket of the cart. I know they say not to do that, but whatever, this is America, we do what we want! She tried to stand up as I was walking toward the shelf to grab something, and I advised her to sit back down. As I turned to look at her plopping back down into the cart, she looked at me with her wide brown eyes, and asked "How did you KNOW I was standing up?" I declared that I had eyes in the back of my head, and her eyes got even wider, and she said "You do?" I, feeling a little mischievous, nodded my head and said "All mamas do."
I foolishly assumed she knew I was joking, but she was overheard by my husband later informing her siblings that Mom has eyes in the back of her head, and then trying to exercise her own back-of-head-sight skills. He texted me the story as I was leaving the gym, and I laughed to myself all the way home!
Disclaimer: After that I did clearly explain to her that I don't have eyes in the back of my head, but I am not quite sure she believes me.