In A Hurry - Impatience

Does anyone else have as much trouble with patience as I do?

I just realized this past week how impatient I can really get. I started thinking about it more after a Community Bible Study lecture last Wednesday - it was mainly on how we are sometimes called to wait for certain things in life.

But with today's culture, it's so hard to wait, is it not? We don't have to wait long for almost anything these days, and it makes it harder to cultivate the habit of patience.

After that lecture, I was a little more conscious of my impatient attitude. There are the long lines at the grocery stores. The slow people in the buffet line that sorely tempt you to line-jump. The frustration when the internet is a little slower than you think it should be. That irritation at the driver that's going 45 mph in a 50 mph zone (the nerve)!

Is it really that big of deal if I have to wait an extra 48 seconds for a web page to load? Or if I'm 5 minutes later getting to my destination by going less than the speed limit? Would it kill me to just be patient with the slow buffet-line people or check-out clerks?

I feel like I'm living in that old Alabama song, "I'm In A Hurry (And I Don't Know Why)".

The final nail in my proverbial coffin was Thursday night, when I read this passage:

"Give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.
He also told them a parable: 'Can a blind man lead a blind man? Will they not both fall into a pit? A disciple is not above his teacher, but everyone when he is fully trained will be like his teacher.
Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, 'Brother, let me take out the speck that is in your eye,' when you yourself do not see the log that is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take out the speck that is in your brother’s eye.'"

Luke 6:38-42 (Emphasis Mine)

You know why this passage was so convicting this time I read it? It is because I realized that even though I have very little patience with other people, I expect them to be patient with me.

I get annoyed when that impatient driver shoots past me in the passing lane. I expect people to just deal with it while I count out my change to the cashier. And I think they're pretty rude if I see an eye-roll or hear an impatient remark (not that I'm ever that obvious - I just stew in my impatience on the inside).

Funny how we expect people to wait for us, but we don't graciously give them the same courtesy.

I don't know about you, but on this issue, I have a big old log in my eye.

"For with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you." More scary words.

I can't really expect others to be patient with me if I'm not patient with others myself, can I? I don't want that same measure I use on other people to be measured back to me. But it will be - that's what Jesus assured us of when He said that.

The only thing that can change would be my own measure.

I also know how important patience will be when I have this sweet baby. I'm not sure you can be a really good parent unless you have patience with your children, and it is important to me to be a good example to my children as well. I don't want them to grow up with an inability to wait because of my own failure in this area.

My new goal is to work on cultivating patience. Not only will this make me and my family generally happier and help me avoid the unpleasant experience of having my own impatient measure used on myself, but it is obeying God's command to be patient with others. And pleasing God is what ultimately matters in life.

And you know, patience is a virtue, after all!

"Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish."
-John Quincy Adams

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Kelley said...

sister this is a constant struggle for me as well. I have days when I can be so patient, but then too many of the others when I can't

Lauren said...

Oh my goodness...amen. I struggle so much with patience as well, and what does it really get me except frustrated and stressed out? Thanks for sharing, this is just what I needed!

Jenene said...

I'm so glad you are able to recognize these things in yourself. How many of us are so blind to our weaknesses?

And this is not to discourage you from working on this area (because I think all of us can afford to be more patient), but: keep in mind that when you ask God to help you be patient, He'll answer!

As in, you'll find yourself in more frustrating situations than ever before, so that you can practice being more patient! It is a virtue, but it is developed in such hard way!

Julie S. said...

I needed to read this today. It is so true, we want everyone to hurry FOR us, but when we want people to WAIT, we get offended. What a great post!

Heather @ Simple Wives said...

Oh goodness! I needed to read that passage today. I always get myself into a hurry over the silliest of things.

Ashley said...

That's good reminder Callie! Thanks for this post!

Brittany Ann said...

I have the same issue. Patience is one of my weaknesses. Praying we both have a chance to develop that virtue better.

Amanda said...

i'm with ya! thank you for the reminder. i really could stand to be more patient with a few things in my life right now! :)

Anna said...

I read this post yesterday and came back today to comment. As I was waiting for it to load I literally thought, "Blogger blogs take forever to load." Then I realized which post I came to comment on and had an internal chuckle over the irony.

I really admire how hard you are on yourself, Callie. Many people would say that's not a good quality, but I appreciate how you become convicted over something and then share it. God uses that to work in others' hearts as well. I remembered your post as I was driving today, actually, and realized how impatient I get with other drivers.

May the Holy Spirit be alive in us and work His perfect fruit of patience!

cait said...

Oh wow...I've been aching with impatience lately! It's awful. I needed this reminder. Thank you for sharing the scripture. That verse is great and so humbling. It's truly one thing that I struggle with pretty much on a daily basis...and it's crazy how we so easily forget that it's's putting our trust in ourselves and earthly things and not on our Creator's plans for us.

Lifting prayers for you and your little one!

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