Infertility And His Perfect Plans

Today I just wanted to reflect on how powerful our God is. I've been continually amazed over the past couple months by how He's been working not only in my life, but in the lives of those around me.

As you all know, Derek and I had trouble getting pregnant with this baby. Nothing I've been through has been quite so stressful, or painful.

I recently read this on a new blog I found: "I don't know how to explain the feeling of thinking, fearing, that you might not be able to conceive a child as a woman. It's such a sinking feeling. It's easy to obsess over. It makes you feel inadequate." That's exactly right. It can be a dark place to be.

"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." Romans 8:28

I know the Lord accomplished great things in my life through those months of infertility. He taught me to lean on Him, and trust that His plans, whatever they might be, were best. He taught me to look for the ways He was going to use this situation, and I felt assured that there is always a purpose, even when it's hard to see. I wrote several posts on my struggles, and I trust that He has used those posts to encourage others when they needed encouragement.

(If you are interested in those posts, see Babies And Being Content, The Fertility Factor, and To Trust Him (And A Good Cry) - that last one was actually written after I found out I was pregnant, but it's full of the lessons I learned during that time.)

One thing that really helped me through all those months of waiting were my "infertility buddies" as I like to call them. These were ladies that were going through much the same thing that I was, and we would spend time talking or e-mailing, encouraging each other and brainstorming on what to try next. I know the Lord placed them in my life - He knew that I would need them.

One of my infertility buddies was Amber. Amber and I went through almost every step of this struggle together. Amber was my very first follower and blogging friend, and we hit it off and ended up e-mailing each other regularly after that. She was the one who told me about the effects of the birth control pill (if you're pro-life, you need to click on the link and read that post), and we went off the pill at about the same time. We both realized we were having problems ovulating, and then we both ended up talking with our hubbies and deciding to try for babies right away. We both prayed for each other.

Then, by the Lord's grace, I got pregnant. His grace and goodness, not only in giving us this baby, but in the countless ways He showed me His faithfulness in the months prior to that, still amaze me.

". . . Pray for one another, that you may be healed." James 5:16b

Being pregnant only made my burden for my "infertility buddies" heavier. I know so many of you had prayed for me through those frustrating months, and my heart was heavy for my friends who weren't pregnant, but wanted to be. I started praying even harder for those I knew who were still trying, including Amber, who was being told by her doctors that she probably wouldn't be able to get pregnant without fertility treatments. (I hope you know that I still pray regularly for my dear friends who are still waiting for the Lord to grant them a baby - you know who you are).

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the LORD, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'" Jeremiah 29:11

God is bigger than a prognosis. He can do anything He pleases, and He likes to surprise us.

Amber is pregnant! No, she didn't do any fertility treatments - in fact she had nearly given up hope of conceiving and had determined that she and her husband may just have to adopt all their children. But the Lord had other plans, and His plans are always the best plans!

(Amber just announced her pregnancy on her blog - head on over there and congratulate her, if you're so inclined!)

After I had written this post, I was made aware of another blogging friend with an amazing story of God's grace and plan in this area. You might all remember Jaime? She moved from a Blogger blog to a Wordpress blog earlier this year. She and her husband have walked through infertility for several years, and she became a mother to her sweet little boy, whom they adopted. I couldn't believe it when I read it, but after they had decided it was time to adopt again, Jaime found out she is pregnant! Amazing, what our God can do . . . head on over to Jaime's blog to read her full infertility and pregnancy story and congratulate her too!

These are just two stories (three, counting mine) of how the Lord has worked in mighty ways in the lives of ladies I know. There are other stories that I'm not at liberty to share right now. Maybe sometime in the future.

I just wanted to encourage you ladies who are still longing for a baby, and wondering if that day will ever come when it's your happy story on your blog. God is more powerful than a diagnosis. He is the Great Physician. He is the Giver of Good Things. Whether He chooses to open your womb, or whether He chooses to reflect His ultimate plan of love and redemption in your life through adoption, He knows what He's doing. He is powerful. And His plans and timing are always perfect.

"He raises the poor from the dust
and lifts the needy from the ash heap;

He seats them with princes,
with the princes of their people.

He settles the barren woman in her home
as a happy mother of children.

Praise the LORD.
"


Psalm 113:7-9



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Mrs. Gibby said...

Add me to the list of interfertility chicks now carrying one of God's miracles!!!
Here's a link to my story
http://togermanyandbeyond.wordpress.com/2010/10/14/ahhhhh-the-sweet-words-of-scripture/

~Jaime

Natalie said...

everything you said was heavy on my heart last night as I was laying in bed. those feelings are definitely something you can't understand unless you have carried this burden but God teaches us SO SO much through this trial. I was thinking and praying last night that one of the reasons I can't wait to get pregnant is to have an amazing testimony like this one to share with people. He DOES hear your prayers and He DOES want to meet your needs! Thanks for the reminders today : ) Congratulations to your friend!

Amanda said...

all i can say is WOW!! God is so good! so happy for you and how He has brought this miracle into your life. :)

Rachel and John said...

So True!

Brittney Galloway said...

What a beautiful post Callie! I'm so glad I had you as an "infertility buddy," during those months to bounce ideas off of and encourage each other!

Amber Hansen said...

Thanks, friend, for the congratulations! I can't tell you how excited we are, but I know you know exactly how it feels :)

Jenene said...

I will add my friend Mandi to this list of women who struggled with infertility but got pregnant.

I'm not sure of the exact details, but she has a condition that makes it difficult to impossible to get pregnant, and she has known this since she was a teen.

She and her husband were married only three months before she conceived; they weren't even trying! This wasn't their plan, but they are so happy, because it's a miracle. According to the medical world, it should not have been that easy!

If you like, you can add my dear friend Sozan to your prayer list. They have been wanting to have a baby for a long time (but he didn't have a good job until recently). They started trying in August, and she has been having tests, she seems perfectly healthy, and she can't figure out why she can't conceive.

Like you, she went off the pill, didn't ovulate or have a period for over a year, finally took progesterone in September, had one period, and nothing more since then.

I praise God for her positive attitude though. I think her husband is more stressed about this than she is!

Brittany Ann said...

It's so true! God has shown me and so many women around me how he truly opens and closes the womb. He's stronger than any modern fertility treatments I know!

ashley said...

That's so awesome, Callie. God really does have everything in control!

Amanda Godin said...

You're going to make me cry again. Thank you for sharing these stories and especially for sharing that scripture. My heart needed that. :)

Kelley said...

what a wonderful post! God is so faithful, but it is always in His timing!

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