Sacred Marriage (A Review)

Some Christian books are classics - books that are helpful to any generation in pointing them to Christ.  I had heard of Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas before, and it has been on my to-read list for years - it is one of those books that seemed to fall in the Christian "classic" category.  I was surprised to see it come up for review, and more surprised to learn that it really isn't even that old of a book!

It has been 15 years since Sacred Marriage was first published, and I received the new edition that was published this year.  The book starts out lamenting the fact that a lot of the traditional spiritual disciplines that have been encouraged through the centuries are more suited to people who do not have family responsibilities - things like extended periods of prayer, meditation, and Bible study that are not really possible when you are working to support a family or have children to care for.  I never really thought about it that way, but I realized that he has a point.

This book is his proposition that being married in itself can act as a spiritual discipline if we use it in the proper way.  If we look at the different aspects of marriage as tools that can be used to refine us to be more like Christ, we can become like Christ in a different and perhaps deeper way than if we never married.

This is not a light and fluffy marriage book - it will make you think about the spiritual ramifications of your marriage, and will challenge you to think of your marriage as an opportunity to deepen your walk with the Lord.  

The only (minor) complaint that I had was that I felt that he was a bit hard on men in general in the chapter on respect, saying that men have traditionally not had enough respect for women.  I bristle a little bit when people start picking on men as whole, because I think one of the (many) negative effects that radical feminism has had on our culture is that the opposite is now true - these days, women have too little respect for men, in general.  Disdain by women for men is more prevalent than the inverse, in my opinion, so I felt that calling the men out for past attitudes was unnecessary.

There is so much meat to this book, and I found myself wanting to highlight so many things.  I was refraining from highlighting at first, just to make sure this book was a keeper, but about halfway through I started bookmarking pages.  There is so much wisdom here for both men and women, and it has definitely changed my view on marriage and the refining capacity that it has.  Definitely a must-read for every Christian couple!

Note: I received a copy of this book for free from the publisher in exchange for an honest review.
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Esther said...

My husband and I were just discussing exactly this premise the other day! 3 kids, working parents, always feeling guilty that I cannot find the time to practice the "heavy" spiritual disciplines. Just bought the book off Amazon, can't wait to read it!

Angela said...

This book has been on my to-read list for awhile now!

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