
A few weeks ago I shared the reasons why I decided to do a no-buy project. With the Christmas sale season coming up, temptations will abound, so this is a good time for me to review and share my personal no-buy rules here, for those of you who may be wondering what that looks like.
First of all, I think some may term what I'm doing as more of a "low-buy" than a "no-buy". I'm not refraining from purchasing anything at all for the next three(ish) months, but I am refraining from buying certain categories of things that are a particular problem for me. I think the great part about doing a project like this is that you can adjust the rules to whatever is going to be the most impactful and practical for yourself. So these rules won't fit for anyone else, but they do apply to what I want to work on with my own buying habits. I'm sharing them here as a way to give you some ideas of the way a no-buy or low-buy could look, in case you find yourself wanting to try something like this. Sharing also gives me a little accountability, and a place to review my own rules!
Without further ado, here they are:

Things I Can Buy:
1. I can buy things for my kids. I will be keeping this rule as long as I can stay reasonable about it - if my shopping habits in this area become a problem I may adjust later.
2. I can replace makeup, skincare, or household products that run out or that break. The key to this rule, is that I have to be completely out of that item! I find myself often buying new products before I'm completely finished with the old ones, and I end up wasting product, so I'd like to completely run out of something, to the point that I can throw it away, before I purchase a new one.
3. I can buy supplies for creative projects if I will realistically use those items within the next month. I would like to shift some of the satisfaction that I sometimes find in shopping into more productive avenues, so I will allow myself to buy craft supplies, yarn, embroidery thread, etc. However, I don't want to end up with a whole cabinet of craft supplies that I have never used, which is why I added the qualification that I must use those things within a month! This will give me a healthy pressure to actually get started on my projects too, instead of feeling overwhelmed and procrastinating.
4. I can buy gifts for others. This was obviously a concession that had to be made.
5. Photo organizing and framing things are okay. One project I would love to finish is getting photo albums updated and some of our pictures/art framed, so this is one area that I will allow myself to still spend money.
6. I may buy home organization things, if I've decluttered the area in question first. I would like to work on cleaning out some neglected corners of our house, and get more organized during this period when I am hoping to not add as many new things to our home. If I find that I need some organizing items in that process, I can buy those.
7. If I receive any cash for holidays or birthdays, I may use that money how I wish. This is a like a little pressure-release valve that I think will help me to be successful, but the fact that I can only buy certain things with gift money will help me be thoughtful about what I purchase.
Things I Cannot Buy:
1. No clothes. This is the biggest area I am trying to restrict over the next year, and I explained that a little more in my last post.
2. No candles. Excuse the cliche here, but I definitely have had a "scarcity mindset" in the past when it comes to candles. I find a scent I like, and I feel like I need to stock up before it's discontinued! In the process, I have amassed a pretty good candle collection, and I absolutely don't need to buy any more candles until I've used up my stash (and that could take me quite a while, since I actually don't burn candles as often as I always think I do).
3. No makeup or nail polish (except replacing empties). I want to completely use up an item before I buy a new one, and I'm not buying extra "fun" makeup or nail items at all, just replacing basics (like mascara or topcoat).
4. No extra skincare. By extra skincare, I mean anything that I am not currently out of. I want to completely use all items I've already purchased, and all the free samples I've amassed over the years, before I purchase a replacement.
5. No perfume or lotions. I don't know how exactly, but I always seem to have a cabinet full of Bath And Body Works lotions and body sprays, and I need to use what I have (and get rid of the ones I don't use anyway)!
6. No curriculum (unless I evaluate and discuss with my husband first). This is a big one for me, because I can always justify a new school-related purchase, and there probably will be times when I think we need to get something over the next few months. My brake on these items is going to be that I need to discuss the purchase with my husband first and see if he thinks it's necessary or a good idea - only if he gives the green light, will I be allowed to purchase curriculum items.
7. No decorative home goods. This is another area that I need to reset. I don't want to buy any decorative items like pillows, home decor, throw blankets, etc. However, I will allow purchases of practical items that we are out of or actually need...for example, I can buy new nice-scented cleaners, if we've used all our other cleaners first, or I can replace things like towels or sleeping pillows if they've worn out, etc. But I will be trying to be strict with myself on those things too.
Special Rules:
1. At the end of each month, if I have any leftover money, I will save half of it, and I am allowed to use the other half to purchase books. This will give me a little leeway on books, with some pretty set limits.
2. Truly free things are okay. I occasionally get a no-purchase-necessary coupon for certain items, and if I really don't have to spend anything to get the freebie, I can do that.
3. I will check in at the end of every three moths, evaluate how I did, and see if I need to tweak any of my rules to be more or less strict. With the short time I've been doing this challenge, I can already see that if I need to make any adjustments, it will probably be needing to make my rules more strict. I think the next month or two is going to be particularly difficult leading into the holidays since I may be able to justify certain purchases as gifts, etc. This has already been a challenge, so I may be tightening these rules as I go to make sure I stay consistent and can be successful at this project! But if one area really does turn out to be somewhat impractical for whatever reason, the three-month evaluations will allow me to find a rule that works better.

Overall, I'm hoping to do some form of a no-buy for the next year, while allowing adjustments along the way - we will see how it goes!
I hope seeing my rules stirs some ideas for yourself if you are considering a no-buy, and I hope you'll root for me as I try to stick to these rules over the coming months!




I've mentioned here and there that in our family, we do once a month grocery shopping, and every time I mention it there is always someone asking me how exactly that works - well, here is my attempt to explain it!
Why We Shop Once A Month
First of all, why do we grocery shop once a month? The short answer is that our family lives in a somewhat rural area, and this is one way we save money.
1. It saves us money on gas.
2. It saves money on impulse buys.
3. It saves money on duplicate purchases.
Not only does shopping once a month save me money on the gas it would take to drive to the grocery store every week, but I find that with shopping once a month, I spend less money than if I tried to shop once a week. Grocery shopping comes with the temptation for impulse buys, and so limiting my trips to the store cuts down on that temptation. I also think that going once a month helps me keep track of what I actually have left in my pantry, so that I'm less likely to buy something that I actually already have at home.
I actually had once-a-month shopping modeled to me by my mom when I was growing up - we often went shopping just once a month, with short stops in between for perishables. So it was natural to continue doing my shopping that way as an adult. I have been once-a-month shopping since Derek and I were first married, though it has definitely become more challenging as we have added more mouths to feed.

Essentials For Once A Month Shopping
1. A deep freezer. It is a definite advantage if you want to grocery shop just once a month to own a big deep freezer. If we didn't have one, I don't think I'd be able to go a month between shopping trips. We have had a deep freezer for our entire married life because we are a hunting family, and when we get something we need a big freezer to store our supply of meat for the whole year. I use the deep freeze for more than meat though - I buy alot of fruits and vegetables in frozen form, and I freeze our bread until we need to use it. I buy the big bags of cheese and freeze half of it until we need it.
Another benefit we have - which is not an essential but is really helpful - is that we have a second fridge in our garage. It's an old fridge that was left there when we moved into our house, and it still works great, so we use it for extra space for items that need to be refrigerated. Not necessary at all, but it is an advantage we have for once-a-month shopping. You could definitely shop once a month without two refrigerators though - I did for years. A second freezer, on the other hand, is probably necessary if there are more than 2-3 people in your family.
2. A place to buy in bulk. Since we shop once a month and have a larger family, buying in bulk is a must. We have a Sam's Club membership currently, and we get alot of our most-used items there - cheese, honey, eggs, apples, peanut butter, etc. It saves us money, and I don't have to worry so much about running out of an item before the month is through since we are buying bigger quantities.
3. A place to store food. It was alot harder to buy a month ahead at our old house because we didn't have a pantry and we had limited cupboard space in our kitchen. I ended up storing alot of bulk items in our laundry room, which was not ideal, but it worked! But you definitely need enough room to store the food - if you don't have the space, once a month shopping is probably not feasible.

How I Do It
After my confession on how I am not great at meal planning (I'm working on it), you are probably wondering how I manage to shop once a month if I don't plan out our meals. Well, I do plan meals in a very general sense, just not specifically from week to week (that's where I struggle).
At the beginning of the month I go through our pantry to see what we still have in there, and I start to form some ideas of what I could make over the next month using food I already have. I usually can come up with a pretty good list of ideas this way, and then I start my grocery shopping list by filling in the ingredients that are not in my pantry.
Next, there are several items that I know we are going to need each month, regardless of what I end up making for dinner, so those go on the list. Typically it's these items:
Basic Ingredient List
Frozen chicken
Cheese
Bread
Cereal
Oatmeal
Rice
Beans (canned or dry)
Noodles
Broth
Tortillas
Frozen Vegetables
Frozen Fruit
*Some Fresh Produce
Peanut Butter
Honey
Sugar
Flour
Eggs
Butter
Olive Oil/Coconut Oil
Milk
Extras (for baked goods):
Nuts
Raisins
Craisins
Chocolate Chips
You can make alot of different types of things with basic ingredients like this, so I try to make sure we are stocked up on the basics.
I usually have a pretty good idea of how much each item is going to cost (at least I did, before inflation started messing me up), and so I start to calculate the price of all the basic things I need to get. Then I know how much wiggle room I have for the things that add the "flavor" to the menu - specific spices I'll need, condiments, special types of noodles, or any other unique ingredients - which I buy in smaller quantities.

The Shopping
After I come up with a really good grocery list, I usually have to schedule out at least 6-8 hours to get the shopping done. This is when I take one of the kids with me and we have a "mom day", with shopping a good lunch, and a small toy or treat. It's a fun and practical way to get our one-on-one time in! As I go through the store and check items off my list, I try to think about how much of each item we will need for the whole month - we typically end up with ten loaves of bread, for example, most of which will get put right into the freezer at home.
I usually pick one non-perishable item each month to stock up on as well, and I'll buy two or three months worth of that item (for example, if it's noodles, I'll buy 20 extra boxes of noodles). Stocking up here and there ensures that there is always something we could make out of basic ingredients when things start getting scarce at the end of the month, and it's also a comfort having a stock of some basics when supply chain issues and inflation start affecting things.
Then I take my ridiculously full cart to the checkout. Is it a little embarrassing - yes! But if any comments are made I just say I have five kids and only shop once a month, and that clears things up.
For transporting things home in my car, I usually bring the cooler and a huge freezer bag for the frozen items, to prevent them from thawing out while we finish our shopping. If it's a really hot day, I'll buy a bag of ice as well to help keep things cool until we get home.
Storing The Food
As I mentioned, there are alot of items that we end up freezing each month.
-All the meat that is purchased goes immediately into the freezer.
-Bulk bags of cheese are opened and separated into two freezer bags. We put one into the fridge to use, and one in the freezer, ready to be pulled out when we need a fresh bag. We also freeze extra blocks of cheese. Freezing does make block cheese crumbly though so we don't freeze unless we have to.
-We freeze all loaves of bread and tortillas that are not going to be used right away.
-I freeze any fresh produce that is freezer-friendly and that I know we won't be using right away. This is a fairly new practice for me. For example, this month I bought fresh ginger and celery in bulk, with the intention of chopping it up and freezing it for later use in soups and other recipes!
Aside from freezing, I also have started buying these five gallon buckets with gamma seal lids for my grains, and I want to get extra buckets to store flour and rice - it's just a safer way to store larger quantities of dry goods to ensure mice, moisture, or insects don't get into it!

Touch-Up Trips
Usually a couple times of month we make a very quick stop at the store for perishable items that won't last the whole month, like milk. We may occasionally have a craving for a specific meal, or I might have missed something on my grocery shopping trip, and we'll buy ingredients for that specific meal. But for the most part, we don't have to do a shopping trip until the beginning of the next month.
Frequently Asked Questions
What do you do about produce?
This is definitely the question I am asked most often. As I mentioned, we do buy alot of vegetables and fruits frozen, or freeze certain things ourselves - for recipes that call for vegetables, such as soups or casseroles, I feel that frozen vegetables are easier to store and work just as well. We use frozen berries for our cereals and yogurt, and frozen fruit for smoothies. Frozen produce can keep in the freezer for quite a long time, and the affects to the nutritional value are negligible, so you are still getting most of the benefits of fresh fruits and veggies!
Other produce actually does keep quite well in the fridge. For instance, we buy carrots, apples, onions, and oranges fresh and keep them in the fridge, and they easily last most of the month before looking a little wrinkly or old. Potatoes last really well just in our pantry. I buy alot of peppers (bell peppers, jalapeños, etc), and they keep for around 2-3 weeks in the fridge.
With produce that does not keep as well (tomatoes, cucumbers, etc.), if I bought them for a specific meal, I try to make that meal toward the beginning of the month rather than toward the end. And for certain produce that we might like to have on hand, like bananas, I'll just buy some when we make our 2-3 milk stops during the month.
I will say that I live in a pretty dry climate, and that does help me when it comes to making produce last. I imagine areas of higher humidity may be worse for produce longevity.
Do you plan out thirty meals at the beginning of each month?
No, ha! As I mentioned, I don't think I am good at meal planning on a weekly basis, much less a whole month. What I do is think through the ingredients I have and come up with a list of possible meals for the whole month - sort of a list of options that I keep in the back of my mind. It's usually a list of 10-15 meals that I could potentially make (because I know there will be leftovers, nights eating out, nights that we just wing it, etc). Then I'll just make sure I have all the ingredients on hand for those meals (plus usually a few new recipes I want to try).
Maybe this is just us, but typically the meals we like to eat are different arrangements of alot of the same basic ingredients (see my basic ingredient list above). If I have those on hand, I can make most things I want to make for the month, without having to plan out every detail.
I'd love to try this to save money, how should I start?
I haven't got this question put exactly this way, but I'm including it here to address how it could look to start shopping less often. If you have a good amount of freezer/refrigerator space and are currently shopping once per week, you could start by stretching out your grocery shopping routine from one week to two weeks between, and see how it works for you. If it goes well and you like it, you could move to three or four weeks next and see if you find it manageable or helpful!
If you don't, that's fine too! Shopping once a month won't work for every family. It works for us because (1) we live in a rural area about 40 minutes from the nearest big town, (2) we eat rather simply (no special diets for anyone in our family), and (3) we have a good amount of freezer space, and (4) I get particularly tempted to buy "extras" when I am in the store, so being in the store less is very helpful for our budget. You may not have the same situation, benefits, or struggles that we do, but if you think shopping less often would help you, start slow until you find that sweet spot for your family!

If you have any other questions, drop them below and I'll follow up! Or if you grocery shop once a month, I'd love to hear. I feel like an aberration most of the time, since most people seem to shop once per week!











